Happy UN Manic Monday!
I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend and is feeling refreshed, happy and excited for the week! Remember your week CAN be just as great as your weekend!! You are responsible for carrying that out!
How am I making my Monday UnManic?
- I had breakfast, coffee, read my paper and relaxed – NO TECHNOLOGY for the first HOUR I am awake!
- Made myself a TO DO LIST for today (I decided to skip the beach, since I will be spending a week AT the Beach (Myrtle Beach < a week away!)
- STARTED my list………and am NOT moving on until things are accomplished on it! Yes, that means EVEN if I need to get up, move, go to the store, etc. WHATEVER it takes to complete that item, I will do!
- Going for a run/walk soon. Its a beautiful morning. My protein cheesecake gave me a lot of energy yesterday, I feel GOOD today
- enjoying my day off to the FULLEST! (I think I will “reward” myself with a movie later! I really want to see this “Boyhood” with Ethan Hawke
- getting myself mentally and physically prepared for Camp this week! it is my last 3 days! I will make the best and MOST of it!
- ok, my blogging time limit is UP for now, Must check it off and MOVE on to the next item! I’ll Be back
Monday’s Are For Munching………….
Amanda from Running With Spoons posted a two part Food survey! I loved it so I decided to answer and share (Because I love questions!)
1) Flavour-wise, do you prefer white breads or whole wheat?
Whole wheat, I Love grains and texture!
2) What’s your favorite type of grain to eat (oatmeal, bread, wraps, etc)?:
currently Oatmeal (with peanut butter) ……hey oatmeal is a grain!
3) What’s your favorite sandwich filling?
oh geez, I have a few favorites currently
PB & Banana (warmed up for about 20 seconds)
turkey, swiss, mustard, pickles, tomato, pepper, and spinach
cream cheese with tomato (and lots of pepper)
4) What’s your favorite kind of bread?
something crisp, or grainy!! I hate soft, fluffy breads
5) Around how many servings of grain do you consume daily?
This question gives me anxiety! Yikes! I don’t know…… as many as I feel like J
6) What’s your favorite cracker-topping?
swiss and tomato, or tuna salad!
7) What’s your favorite thing to do with rice?
Hmmm, probably eat it with stir fry!
8) What brand of bread do you usually buy?
I am still experimenting!
9) What’s your favorite type of cereal?
besides oatmeal you mean? I actually prefer and like the less sweet ones. I like granola or whole grain nuggets. I know boring, but its what I like!.
10) What was your favorite type of breakfast cereal as a child?
Hmmm, so many!! I can not just name one! Some of my favorites: Captain crunch (with crunch berries) Rice krispie treats cereal, LIFE (mmmm life!), shredded wheat with fruit filling, frosted mini wheats, kixx, fruity pebbles
1) Favorite fruit?
Once again I can NOT just pick one! I love apples, bananas, cantaloupe, watermelon, honeydew, blueberries, strawberries
2) Least favorite type of fruit?
probably peaches? I am having a hard time finding my desired texture. They have been either too hard or too squishy for my liking
3) Do you drink fruit juice often?
no really, I like to eat my fruit
4) Do you consider tomatoes a fruit, or a vegetable?
I can not fathom the fact it is Not a veggie!! LOL it will always be a veggie in my eyes NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS!
5) Do you think you eat enough fruit daily?:
6) Do you consider fruit more important than vegetables?
I think they are both equally important (geez! tough questions!)
7) What’s your favorite citrus fruit?
8) Do you like pastries with fruit in them?
Oh yes, I am dying for a good fruit filled Danish!
9) What’s your favorite flavour of jam?
I think blackberry……..homemade in Poland. Nothing beats that!
10) When do you usually eat the most fruit (breakfast, snack, etc)?:.
I’m snacking on fruit all throughout the day.
1) When you were a kid, did you like vegetables?:
Hmmmm, certain ones. I grew up in a Polish household. My mom always made delicious dinners and meals, so I pretty much ate everything (I love the story of how my polish grandmother would feel me sauerkraut when I was a baby! (I Love it now too!)
2) Do you think you eat enough vegetables now?:
Yes!! I love and eat veggies ALL the time
3) What’s your favorite raw vegetable?:
4) What’s your favorite cooked vegetable?:
i love my veggies ROASTED. I cant pick JUST one!! I love sweet potatoes, broccoli, asparagus, mushrooms, Brussels sprouts I can not pick (it would NOt be fair!) I do NOT want to hurt anyone’s feelings!
5) What’s your least favorite raw vegetable?:
Broccoli or cauliflower (love them cooked but DESPISE raw)
6) What’s your least favorite cooked vegetable?:
7) What’s your favorite kind of salad?
Crazy, mixed up with lots of goodies! Artichokes, cucumbers, petite tomato pieces, protein, feta, i like balsamic or Asian inspired dressings
8) Do you buy spaghetti sauce, or do you make your own?
Both!! I enjoy making my own with my moms jersey tomatoes! I have some in the freezer right now! Yum
9) When/if you order a sub at subway or mr. sub, what vegetables do you get on it?:
lettuce, pickles, peppers, tomato, spinach
10) Do you like vegetables more than fruit?
I do not believe I do!
Monday’s Are For My Thoughts
12 Toxic Behaviors that Push People Away from You – Awesome Article!
(find original article here)
So today I had time to think…..something I do not like doing much for fear of thinking about something I do NOT want to find out about myself. I came across this article and it is completely true!! It’s a great reminder and definitely puts things into perspective!
Your behavior is a little thing that makes a big difference.
The twelve most common toxic behaviors we see are:
- Being envious of everyone else.– Don’t let envy (or jealously) get the best of you. Envy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. There is nothing attractive or admirable about this behavior. So stop comparing your journey with everyone else’s. Your journey is YOUR journey, NOT a competition. You are in competition with one person and one person only – yourself. You are competing to be the best you can be. If you want to measure your progress, compare yourself to who you were yesterday.
- Taking everything too personally.– People are toxic to be around when they believe that everything happening around them is a direct assault on them or is in some way all about them. The truth is that what people say and do to you is much more about them, than you. People’s reactions to you are about their perspectives, wounds and experiences. Whether people think you’re amazing, or believe you’re the worst, again, is more about them. I’m not suggesting we should be narcissists and ignore all feedback. I am saying that so much hurt, disappointment and sadness in our lives comes from our taking things personally. In most cases it’s far more productive and healthy to let go of other people’s good or bad opinion of you, and to operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your guide. (Read The Four Agreements.)
- Acting like you’re always a victim.– Another toxic behavior is persistent complaining that fuels your sense of victimization. Believing you’re a victim, that you have no power to exert and no power over the direction of your life, is a toxic stance that keeps you stuck. Working as a life coach with people who have suffered major trauma in their lives but found the courage to turn it all around, I know we all have access to far more power, authority, and influence over our lives than we initially believe. When you stop complaining, and refuse to see yourself as a helpless victim, you’ll find that you are more powerful than you realized, but only if you choose to accept this reality.
- Hoarding pain and loss.– One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go – whether it’s guilt, anger, love or loss. Change is never easy – you fight to hold on and you fight to let go. But oftentimes letting go is the healthiest path forward. It clears out toxic thoughts from the past. You’ve got to emotionally free yourself from the things that once meant a lot to you, so you can move beyond the past and the pain it brings you. Again, it takes hard work to let go and refocus your thoughts, but it’s worth every bit of effort you can muster.
- Obsessive negative thinking.– It’s very hard to be around people who refuse to let go of negativity – when they ruminate and speak incessantly about the terrible things that could happen and have happened, the scorns they’ve suffered, and the unfairness of life. These people stubbornly refuse to see the positive side of life and the positive lessons from what’s happening. Pessimism is one thing – but remaining perpetually locked in a negative mindset is another. Only seeing the negative, and operating from a view that everything is negative and against you, is a twisted way of thinking and living, and you can change that.
- Lack of emotional self-control.– An inability to manage your emotions is toxic to everyone around you. We all know these people – those who explode in anger and tears over the smallest hiccup or problem. Yelling at the grocery store clerk for the long line, screaming at an employee for a small error she made, or losing it with your daughter for spilling juice on the floor. If you find that you’re overly emotional, losing your cool at every turn, you may need some outside assistance to help you gain control over your emotions and understand what’s at the root of your inner angst. There’s more to it than what appears on the surface. An independent perspective – and a new kind of support – can work wonders. (Angel and I discuss this in detail in the “Happiness” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
- Making superficial judgments about others.– Don’t always judge a person by what they show you. Remember, what you’ve seen is oftentimes only what that person has chosen to show you, or what they were driven to show based on their inner stress and pain. Alas, when another person tries to make you suffer in some small way, it is usually because they suffer deep within themselves. Their suffering is simply spilling over. They do not need punishment or ridicule, they need help. If you can’t help them, let them be.
- Cruelty (or lacking empathy and compassion).– One of the most toxic behaviors – cruelty – stems from a total lack of empathy, concern or compassion for others. We see it every day online and in the media – people being devastatingly unkind and hurtful to others just because they can. They tear people down online in a cowardly way, using their anonymity as a shield. Cruelty, backstabbing, and hurting others for any reason is toxic, and it hurts you as well. If you find yourself backstabbing and tearing someone else down, stop in your tracks. Dig deep and find compassion in your heart, and realize that we’re all in this together.
- Cheating and cutting moral corners simply because you can.– Cheating is a choice, not a mistake, and not an excuse! If you decide to cheat, and you succeed in cheating someone out of something, don’t think that this person is a fool. Realize that this person trusted you much more than you ever deserved. Be bigger than that. Don’t do immoral things simply because you can. Don’t cheat. Be honest with yourself and everyone else. Do the right thing. Integrity is the essence of everything successful.
- Hiding your truth.– People cannot connect with you if you’re constantly trying to hide from yourself. And this becomes a truly toxic situation the minute they become attached to your false persona. So remember, no matter what age, race, sex, or sexuality you are, underneath all your external decorations you are a pure, beautiful being – each and every one of us are. We each have light to shine, and missions to accomplish. Celebrate being different, off the beaten path, a little on the weird side, your own special creation. If you find yourself feeling like a fish out of water, by all means find a new river to swim in. But DO NOT change who you are; BE who you are. Don’t deny yourself, improve yourself. (Read The Untethered Soul.)
- Needing constant validation.– People who constantly strive for validation by others are exhausting to be around. Those men and women who get caught up in the need to prove their worth over and over and over, and constantly want to win over everyone around them, are unintentionally toxic and draining. Know this. Over-attaching to how things have to look to others can wear you out and bring everyone else around you down. There is a bigger picture to your life, and it’s not about what you achieve in the eyes of the masses. It’s about the journey, the process, the path – what you’re learning, how you’re helping others learn too, and the growing process you allow yourself to participate in.
- Being a stubborn perfectionist.– As human beings, we often chase hypothetical, static states of perfection. We do so when we are searching for the perfect house, job, friend or lover. The problem, of course, is that perfection doesn’t exist in a static state. Because life is a continual journey, constantly evolving and changing. What is here today is not exactly the same tomorrow – that perfect house, job, friend or lover will eventually fade to a state of imperfection. But with a little patience and an open mind, over time, that imperfect house evolves into a comfortable home. That imperfect job evolves into a rewarding career. That imperfect friend evolves into a steady shoulder to lean on. And that imperfect lover evolves into a reliable lifelong companion. It’s just a matter of letting perfectionism GO.
The floor is yours…
If you can relate to any of these toxic behaviors, remember, you are not alone. We all have unhealthy personalities buried deep within us that have the potential to sneak up on us sometimes. As stated above, the key is awareness – recognizing these behaviors and stopping them in their tracks.
So, what toxic behaviors (or mood swings) sometimes sneak up on you? What toxic behaviors push you away from others? How do you cope? Leave a comment below and share your insights with us.
Number 10 is my biggie. I tend to hide my truth (from myself) as well as others. Being honest is hard, when you may hurt someone’s feelings or tell them something they may not particulary like to hear, but the truth is the only way. It makes ME feel better and I think the other person will respect you more, whether they like what they hear or not!
For so many years I was a stranger…….to myself. I did what others wanted me to do, I did what was best for OTHERS, I put OTHERS needs first constantly, and forgot about myself…..
1. What toxic behavior sneaks up on you? What pushes you away from others? 2. Favorite Fruit? Favorite Vegetable? 3. What is ONE thing on your TO DO list today?