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Friday Faves and feelings

Fave: Pumpkin

Oh my. I am currently craving all things pumpkin (Ok well maybe NOT pumpkin spice coffee, just not my thing!)

BUT, look at these :

chocolate pumpkin overnight oats

Chocolate-Pumpkin Overnight Oats

Pumpkin Satay zoodles

Satay Pumpkin Zoodles

Pumpkin Spiced Salmon

Pumpkin Spice Salmon

Feeling: Floating, disconnected, disassociated.

So lately, I have been surprising myself quite a bit…..a random, every day occurrence seems so “amazing” to me.  It sounds wonderful, but it is actually a very uncomfortable feeling.  I feel disconnected with myself.
When in fact, I think this is the opposite. I think I am finally beginning to BE myself and that is VERY stranger like to me.  I have for years pretended to be someone else. Yes really, but not really. I’m not saying I went around lying saying I was a doctor, ran 50 marathons, etc, BUT instead I would tell people YES all the time , even if it were something I did not want to do, enjoyed, or looked forward to. Many years of this really caused me to loose myself completely, and I became a stranger to myself.
I understand that all of my recent “hard work” and self discovery is confusing for others. To them, I probably seem like a stranger NOW, yet this is really the real ME

So it is uncomfortable to know that people do not  like certain aspects of me, but all in all, this is me. I have to accept it, but others do not. Everything in life is a choice. I am choosing to continue to work, grow, build and strengthen the person i am.

Fave: Yoga

I found a new yoga studio that I love, love, love!

What I love even more? How my body feels after a week of it.  For once in my life, I am finally doing something for my body that is NOT calorie burning related. I am actually practicing yoga for my mind AND to strengthen and rebuild my weak muscles (hamstring in particular)

Lately, I have not been feeling well physically. I am certain stress plays a factor, but so does, being on my feet, sitting in “little person” seats, not properly taking care of “ME”,  etc, etc. So I took initiative and want to feel better so that I can perform better, participate in activities I want to do/learn, and NOT for the fact of burning calories! This is HUGE for me! I am really proud of myself and love the way I am feeling!

Current favorite pose:  Downward facing dog

Current yoga tool I am loving:  This yoga bolster

OMG! How did I never know about this? I have major lower back pain (My lower back really curves in, So I have difficulty laying flat on my back, I arch)  My new yoga instructor recommended I try this under my legs when laying down and WOAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH it works!
Next, I will try a block for seated poses.

I will admit, in the past, I have avoided any type of yoga tools for fear they would make me look “weak”…..well how stupid was I!? By avoiding the tools I NEEDED, I actually became weak!  No more, I do not care what others think, they can judge (which the won’t because they are too concerned about themselves) But I will no longer put my needs aside in hopes of “looking good” for others ❤

 

Feeling: Proud

I have the best students this year. Little do they know, they are teaching me SO much. Today I experienced THEM taking pride of themselves and feeling great about themselves. This truly is such an amazing feeling. It brought tears to my eyes, something which has as of late been very infrequent……..I feel like my feelings are coming back ❤

Fave:  Goals

In the past I have set pretty high and unrealistic goals for myself. I am learning to slow things down and set smaller, more specific goals.

Some of the goals I have:

  1.  Give Lily the “hot dog” 5-10 minutes of “us” time.  Where I just focus on her and pet her, brush her, play, etc. I do not do this enough. I am so grateful to have her in my life. She is such an amazing little pup. She is my walking partner, my cuddle buddy, my anger management.  She is always there for me in subtle ways. The LEAST I can do is “notice” her more ❤IMG_4922
  2. talk to and LISTEN to someone with my full attention once per day.
  3. eat when my body feels hungry, even if I think it will pass, or I can “just wait” a little longer
  4. Break things down into tasks, specifically for my students. I WANT them to learn and be successful, yet I want it NOW. I have to realize that learning does not happen over night and that I need to build them up to where I want them to go. Even if that means going back a few (or a lot ) of steps. 
  5. notice one thing in “Nature” every day  (This morning I saw a fox on my way to work!!!)

 

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Some Southern Observations

So it has been quite an adjustment for me, moving from NJ to SC.  I have had many ups and downs as my friends and family can attest to, and quite honestly, I still am not sure about so much.

I feel awful for putting my loved ones through my own torment. My instant thoughts are “Don’t burden anyone anymore , keep it inside, journal” BUT I realize that is not healthy and my “old ways”. So I will continue to vent/cry/whine when needed BUT I will also make sure to focus on all the positives and growing I am doing (I am learning SO Much about myself!!)  I still do not know if this will ever feel like “home” but at least I am giving it a good shot.

 

However as a fellow “northerner” (like many in the area) I have been making some pretty heartwarming observations. 

Often times I find myself out with others and I just sit back and “watch” what is going on around me.

Most days I feel like I am in a movie and I am just watching all that is happening around me and that is it not real.

I have (embarrassingly) learned many things, just by assuming …..and being quickly corrected.

Yet, I want to focus on all the positives of the area and the good ol’ south.

  1.  People are friendly. I get called doll, sweetie, love, honey, all sorts of stuff. I have received more hugs here by strangers than I ever had before (not like strangers just walking up to me and hugging me, but at work, at a new yoga studio, church).  One of my first days here a little boy approached me at the beach and just started talking to me, asking questions, etc. At the end of our conversation, he said “have a wonderful day, mam”. He was probably 8 or 9?                                                                                     
  2. there is such a sense of community.  Teachers, parents and community really want the BEST for their/our children.  Others are willing to do so much to ensure the children of their community are happy, healthy, educated, loved…..It amazes me how big teachers hearts are here. We are more than just teachers, we are raising a community
  3. Spirituality is huge.  NJ may have it’s multitude of Wawa’s, but SC has its churches. Wow. They are everywhere!  Big, small, lights , simple, you name it, its here!  The church communities are so welcoming and although I am sure it is popular in NJ, contemporary churches here are everywhere. For the first time in my life (woah) I really enjoyed church and mass. I felt like I was at a concert!! The music, the technology. It is quite a different (and pretty spectacular) world 🙂
  4. Everything is slower, except for work. I thought that by moving here my work life and load would be simple and slow. Everything is just as fast paced (if not faster, or that I am just new to all of this) BUT the rest of SC is slower paced. For example:  stores and restaurants. You never feel that pressure to “get in and get out”. You are rarely rushed, and it is even more rare to run “in and out” of a grocery store or convenience store. Lines are longer, slower and not many people seem to complain. That is a huge difference from NJ and one that I am dealing with. As soon as I begin to get annoyed or irritated, I tell myself to take a deep breath and slow down too. Life is too short. I am being forced to become more present.
  5. The stores are less stocked than in NJ. TJ Maxx, marshalls, home goods……there are far less stores and their merchandise is scarce (but thats not a bad thing!!)
  6. There are bugs and bugs and bugs and more bugs. You can add to that list frogs, lizards, snakes and spiders.  Oddly enough as abundant as they are, they tend to stay away. I am always outdoors and I definitely have seen my share of creepy crawlers, but it is NO WHERE near what I know is really lurking out there…..maybe I am just avoiding acknowledging them so much? 🙂 You know, like, if you pretend its not there, its really not?? 🙂 
  7. When you live AT the beach, you rarely GO to the beach. I actually prefer my community and the areas surrounding the beach.  Don’t get me wrong, I love going but there are so many other fabulous things to do and see.  I love my beach walks, but I will leave the lounging for vacation time 🙂 I think knowing the beach is right there makes me feel content. I KNOW I can go any time I want, if I choose (and I do try to get to the beach for a few walks, the early mornings and evenings are my favorite!)
  8. I say Mom, you say Mama.  Everyone calls moms’ their “mamas” here. I love it! It is so heart warming!
  9. Sports are HUGE.  I thought we were fans in NJ!?  Well sports here are even bigger. I suppose what I mean is the local sports, high school, college, even elementary school. Yes SC loves the big sports guys, but they equally love their local sports teams as well (if not more!) Honestly, I still just can NOT get into it. I would like to have a passion for something sports related, yet I have not had much luck.
  10. Alcohol is everywhere!  Target ,walmart, gas stations, you name it, alcohol is there! It is so abundant!
  11. The south is up and coming. There are so many new stores coming to the areas, activities AND tons of new homes.  * I hear a Target is being built nearby!  Anddddd check out this cool new restaurant opening Chemist
  12. Palmetto bugs are real y’all (I know because I found one in my kitchen today, trying to hide from the rain)
  13. It rains A LOT!
  14. The produce…….kinda sucks 😦
  15. Yay for yoga!! I found a new studio and teacher that I ❤ !
  16. The first day of Fall feels like the first day of summer 🙂
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Southern living 


I have not posted much lately because in all honesty, I have not had much time. With work and trying to push myself to have a social life (meeting new people  and exploring the area,etc) my blogging time has been limited (and that’s ok!)

So here’s what I have been doing, seeing, trying lately….

 

It was really great having my Aunt and Uncle here for the week (they were vacationing right next door!) We had a lovely weekend in Wrightsville Beach, shopping, great food and great times. We ended our weekend with a good ol’ Frogmore stew party 🙂

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I even set the table traditionally for our feast, with newspapers and all!
we all really enjoyed our Trader Joe’s wine, perfect companion!

Their visit really made things feel like HOME. I will be honest, this week was much tougher without them 😦

So, I had to keep busy!

I played kickball with some wonderful (and talented) guys and gals!  Now, I am not experienced AT all with kickball, plus still recooping from an injury I am pretty weak and have no “strength” (as in “pushing off” when running, getting speed, momentum, etc) My hamstring has been acting up, so that played a part in my “not so kick ass” kickball experience. BUT everyone was very nice and encouraging, even though we all knew I ……ummm, uhhhh, SUCKED!

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hahaa, trying to look like I know what I am doing, AND hiding the fact that I was in PAIN!
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“Ok, good I can do this, stand around and just smile”

I also volunteered for RUN CLUB at school. What an amazing program to get kids moving and motivated!! It rained, so we kept things indoors with a pretty cool workout video! I was impressed to see how excited and motivated the kids were! I can not wait to see how they grow personally and physically 🙂

Hey if I can’t “do it” , might as well teach it, right!?

*** I have to say it is AMAZING how involved teachers, parents and staff are here in SC.  There is such a sense of pride and overall wanting students and children to be successful. It is amazing how committed teachers, family and the community is. It really is an overall great feeling and I am proud to be a part  of it *** This will be a post of its on, on my observations of the “south”

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Bike ride and Brunch

This has by far been one of my FAVORITE “excursions” here in SC!  We rode from Murrels Inlet to (and through ) Huntington Beach State Park. It was absolutely a break taking and beautiful ride. I loved hearing about the culture (and I thought there was NONE here! ) seeing the beautiful beach homes and communities, PLUS spending time with some great people.

Murrels Inlet, Pawleys Island and Huntington Beach state park, are really beautiful, lush and tropical!

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Love the palms!

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Atalaya Mansion at Huntington Beach State Park

I finally got to see the Atalaya mansion! It had a very “jailhouse” vibe. I thought it looked more like a prison than a mansion, but it was still beautiful in its own way. Not to mention only FEET away from the ocean!

I look forward to going back next weekend for the Arts and Crafts Festival and learning more about the manion

Here  is some more information!! (The history!)

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saw these guys just hanging out during our ride!

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so pretty!

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pristine!

We ended with Brunch at AppleWood House of Pancakes

The buffet brunch for $9.99 was WELL worth it!

We were all smart and decided NOT to overstuff ourselves since we DID still have to ride our bikes back…….poor planning! 🙂

Later than night, I met up with some beautiful ladies for a Grape Stomping event, wine tasting and …….GATOR viewing (Only in the south!?)

We had tickets for the Grape Wine Stomp and Duplin Winery, which included a walk through Alligator Adventure (I highly recommend BOTH if you have not been)

I loved the boardwalk at Alligator Adventure. PLUS I loved that the staff were openly walking around with animals to see (We saw a hyena walking on a leash, a huge boa constrictor and of course, alligators (They were cute and felt incredibly smooth!)

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Feeding Time!

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This guy weighed OVER 100 lbs!

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My favorite? The lemurs and spider monkey of course!

The grape stomp was so much fun, jokingly, I was a “pro” since I had done it before in PA 🙂
I loved that they were making these adorable tshirts with YOUR footprints on them from the stomp (Not actual grape juice but purple paint, BUMMER!)

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It feels so gross and squishy…..

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Bottling the wine

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So it was a fun, FULL week. Now I feel I am ready to focus on some things that have been causing me stress and anxiety.  A fun weekend always recharges me and makes me feel POWERFUL and that I can do anything 🙂

Happy weekend y’all!!

xoxox

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Southern Charm and Cause of Alarm

BOOKS! Yup, that’s what I am talking about!

I had a great reading month.  Since moving down south, I really wanted to feel like I was IN the south, so I choose two sweet southern books to read this month.

Also, for my book club, I read a fascinating book that I would have NEVER found if it weren’t for the book club!  My reviews and links are below:

Southern Charm

 The Summer Girls by Mary Alice Monroe

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Three granddaughters. Three months. One summer house.

In this enchanting trilogy set on Sullivan’s Island, South Carolina, New York Times bestselling author Mary Alice Monroe captures the complex relationships between Dora, Carson, and Harper, three half-sisters scattered across the country—and a grandmother determined to help them rediscover their family bonds.

For years, Carson Muir has drifted, never really settling, certain only that a life without the ocean is a life half lived. Adrift and penniless in California, Carson is the first to return to Sea Breeze, wondering where things went wrong…until the sea she loves brings her a minor miracle. Her astonishing bond with a dolphin helps Carson renew her relationships with her sisters and face the haunting memories of her ill-fated father. As the rhythms of the island open her heart, Carson begins to imagine the next steps toward her future.

In this heartwarming novel, three sisters discover the true treasures Sea Breeze offers as surprising truths are revealed, mistakes forgiven, and precious connections made that will endure long beyond one summer.T

This book was set in Sullivan’s Island, SC. I absolutely loved the feel and vibe of the location! Reading books that take place in the south make me feel so much more at home. I actually get to understand how things are and work here, because they are SOO much different than in NJ. The south brings a comforting, homey and VERY community spin to my world. I am not used to it at all!  So experiencing books written in the south ABOUT the south, teach me so much and actually let me expand my views and beliefs.

This story is about 3 sisters that grew apart but are brought back together. They are all dispersed and gather together for a summer that was meant to bring them together by their grandmother. Each sister has her own share of problems, from an autistic child to alcoholism, everything really hit close to home.  It demonstrates life’s ups and downs  (that we all experience) and yet how having love and support can help you get through tough times. After all, isn’t that what life is all about? Feeling, being and giving love?

I recommend this for anyone that likes a feel good, easy, breezy read

The Pecan Man by  Cassie Dandridge Selleck

The Pecan Man

In the summer of 1976, recently widowed and childless, Ora Lee Beckworth hires a homeless old black man to mow her lawn. The neighborhood children call him the Pee-can Man; their mothers call them inside whenever he appears. When the police chief’s son is found stabbed to death near his camp, the man Ora knows as Eddie is arrested and charged with murder. Twenty-five years later, Ora sets out to tell the truth about the Pecan Man. In narrating her story, Ora discovers more truth about herself than she could ever have imagined. This novel has been described as To Kill a Mockingbird meets The Help.

I really enjoyed learning about the difficulties and unfairness blacks suffered, even when times were supposedly “changed”.  I loved the story line and felt myself relating to Ora Lee on a few occasions, most significantly her really realizing and admitting her mistakes to her self.  This was a beautifully written story and I felt the pain and happiness right along with the characters.

MY favorite read this month was

Brain on Fire by Susana Cahalan

Brain on Fire: My Month of Madness

A gripping memoir and medical suspense story about a young New York Post reporter’s struggle with a rare and terrifying disease, opening a new window into the fascinating world of brain science.

One day, Susannah Cahalan woke up in a strange hospital room, strapped to her bed, under guard, and unable to move or speak. Her medical records—from a month-long hospital stay of which she had no memory—showed psychosis, violence, and dangerous instability. Yet, only weeks earlier she had been a healthy, ambitious twenty-four year old, six months into her first serious relationship and a sparkling career as a cub reporter.

Susannah’s astonishing memoir chronicles the swift path of her illness and the lucky, last-minute intervention led by one of the few doctors capable of saving her life. As weeks ticked by and Susannah moved inexplicably from violence to catatonia, $1 million worth of blood tests and brain scans revealed nothing. The exhausted doctors were ready to commit her to the psychiatric ward, in effect condemning her to a lifetime of institutions, or death, until Dr. Souhel Najjar—nicknamed Dr. House—joined her team. He asked Susannah to draw one simple sketch, which became key to diagnosing her with a newly discovered autoimmune disease in which her body was attacking her brain, an illness now thought to be the cause of “demonic possessions” throughout history.

With sharp reporting drawn from hospital records, scientific research, and interviews with doctors and family, Brain on Fire is a crackling mystery and an unflinching, gripping personal story that marks the debut of an extraordinary writer.

I love psychology, the mind and WHY we do things. This book was fascinating and really caught my attention for several reasons:

  1.  It informed me of a new medical condition, I had NO clue about
  2. It made me realize how sensitive and in tune with myself I was
  3. It gave me the inspiration to NOT give up fighting for what is right , or what I feel is right
  4. That I really enjoy reading memoirs! (If they interest me!)

I find myself to be a sensitive person. By that I mean I feel I can pick up on my feelings or know when something is just NOT right. I feel I can do this with others as well. I am sensitive as to when something is bothering someone else

 

This book was for my book club, WHICH was interesting (and another post in itself) because there were two girls that were doctors in my group, so it was interesting to get the medical perspective about this book!

 

***When I say medical, do NOT run. It is very simple and easy to follow. The author does an exceptional job of “dumbing” down the issues and explaining terminology that may not be known to readers

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Weekend update and life lately 

Sunday fun day comes to an end but instead of getting down about it I am looking forward to learning new things each day this week.  Plus my social calendar is pretty full and I’m excited!

I have kickball this week and signed up to volunteer at our running club at school. Trying to keep busy so I don’t miss my mama , friends and family so much. 

This weekend was really wonderful.  My aunt and uncle are down for the week and I have really enjoyed spending some time with them. Makes things feel so much more like “home”.  Plus I feel safe and comfortable with them which is difficult for me 

They have been on the go exploring and relaxing.   I’ve joined them for a few things like a rib and chicken nine and dine night, a night at the cabana (with some unexpected and unwelcomed guests) and the best day in Wrightsville Beach!

 

Unwelcomed guest

Wrightsville beach is absolutely beautiful.  The homes, the surfers, the cute little boutiques.  We all loved it!

  
We checked out Lumina Station 

 which had some adorable shops! Tickled pink was my favorite! So many adorable things (I was cheap good I didn’t buy anything)

ThE baby clothes were so cute! I wanted to buy them all!

   

We headed to Airlie Gardens, thanks to Joelle’s recommendation) and got in on a little tour. It was so interesting learning about the history  and all the fancy parties Mrs. Jones would throw.  She had  a $300,000 entertaining budget back in the late 1800s.  Woah!!! Fancy much?  She also loved her gardens and took much pride in the design (even a lovers garden which was supposed to bring you good luck). We also learned about the Now famous artist (then slave), Minnie Evans  

 ,whose50 cent paintings are today worth about $20,0000! 

  And did you know it is illegal to dispose of oyster shells in NC? They must be recycled!   

 
Here I am standing in front of the beautiful bottle house!

   
 

I want to come back in the spring for the azaleas!

 
Lunch on the water in Wrightsville beach.  Breathtaking (and windy!)

   

  

 Oceanic restaurant really has the best views! 

I had fries and a grilled salmon salad which were decent but nothing to write home about.  My uncles seafood platter looked delicious and my aunts sand ….well we won’t even go there :). 

A quick stop to trader joes for some wine and oats! 
And aquick stroll along the riverwalk in Downtown Wilmimgton.   

  
We briefly browsed the cotton exchange, am old factory now turned upscale shopping boutique but we all agreed this was a trip for a day of its own. (Very hipster vibe)

  
A nice drive and easy drive home to s perfect day
Later I met up with a few friends for pizza and talk at a coal brick oven place.  

We tried to get ice cream but had no luck :(.  I did end up getting some of myown on my drive home :). It was on my mind!

I had a great, full day.  Which I realize I need to help keep me positive, focused and not missing my mom. Yet I realize i also need to slow down and just be with my feelings instead if trying to occupuy myself constantly to make them go away , because they don’t go away.  It’s just a temporary band aid

As wonderful of a weekend as it was I am reverting back to old feelings and feeling “fat”.  I allowed myself to enjoy life this weekend and must be feeling unworthy or guilty bc I immediately go towards those negative “fat” thoughts. Yet I know that fat is not a feeling. 

  
Sunday was beautiful.  A great day for a leisurely early morning run and errands , cleaning and prepping. I got to schooL, for a bit to get ready for the week. It is so nice working so close!!

I had decided to share my love of cooking and entertaining by making some good ol southern “frogmore stew” (don’t worry no frogs).  I am so happy with how it turned out and my family was too! It was fun researching, decorating,cooking, entertaining and of course eating it”. 

  
Baked peaches with vanilla ice cream were the perfect ending

 
I hope your weekend was just as wonderful and better yet hope you find the positives in your week ahead! 

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Wednesday Wants

I want …..

to continue to stay positive

It is so easy to slip back into negative thinking but the truth of the matter is………….its up to you to choose your own outlook.

Recently a coworker of mine went through some tough times. I was amazed at all the shortcomings, personal issues, family issues, etc she has recently dealt with AND one would NEVER know. Every day she carries a bright and cheery smile, does her best and radiates positive energy and strength. No matter what life throws her way, she continues to count her blessings. Talk about inspiration!

Its true. Everyone is NOT always happy all the time. There are moments and memories that bring happiness. I personally need to stop dwelling and beating myself up for those unfulfilled unhappy times I experience. I can accept them and move past them because they too will move on

 

I want…..

to share some new FALL styles I am (surprisingly) Loving!

 

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Plaid is NOT my thing, but this is!

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I will definitely be keeping cozy and warm in a sweater poncho

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I don’t think I can do the high waist jeans, BUT these are totally cute

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I want …..

to say that I had ribs tonight , for the first time in probably 15 or so years. I loved them, BUT still prefer chicken (thank you ciocia and wujek ❤ for sharing this with me)

I want …..

 

to visit WrightsvilleBeach

and Airlie Gardens

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UnManic Monday

Happy UnManic Monday y’all!

I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend. Mine was absolutely R-E-L-A-X-I-N-G!  I do not think I have gotten as much rest and down time in years as I have this weekend.

Initially it felt “wrong”. I kept telling myself I HAD to be doing something productive ALL the time. In fact, my weekend was still pretty busy, but something was different……..I did not exhaust myself. I took my time. I did a lot but did it slowly and a little bit at a time.

I also was present. Something that I realize I am not all the time. Being present actually free’s up my mind and makes things less stressful and more enjoyable.

Being present sure does beat the constant “GO! GO! GO!” attitude my brain has.

I did so much yet so little this weekend, if that makes sense?

Friday night I had my first pole dancing class.I mentioned it made me feel FREE. This was the first way I was more aware and present

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haha, yup I felt like a fool BUT more importantly I did NOT care. That is what made this so freeing and enjoyable! No one was judging, not even ME! 

Saturday I met a friend at the beach for a little chat (mostly about real estate!) then headed to the Boogie Beach BBQ fest in Myrtle Beach, which quite honestly was a disappointment. I missed the $10 taste test and there really was not much else there. The food trucks were all closed down (I missed the rush 😦 ) and little to no vendors were there with crafts, etc, (I expected this).  There was a live band playing that was pretty “rad” (80s babyyy!) called Carolina Midnight ,but I left my chair in the car, since it was sprinkling and in SC, you NEVER know when a downpour is a comin’!  So I walked around and decided to head back home.

I stopped at a few stores to check prices and pick up some staples. When I got back home I decided to head out for a nice long walk on the beach, since the clouds and rain lifted and the sun was shining bright!

The walk was beautiful. The beach was super crowded and I love having the cabana right there to stop and use the bathroom or hide from a passing rain storm!  I saw some beautiful shells and of course a few starfish along the way 🙂 

       I am constantly on the lookout for the “perfect” shell for certain people in my life that I plan on sending back to NJ, when I find it 🙂

  
Saturday night I also headed out to see a comedy show. This made me realize several things:

  1. I am just NOT a night person. I get up super early and am active during the day, late nights are just not enjoyable.
  2. I’d rather do things during the DAY and prefer quieter evenings at home.
  3. I do not like large crowds. I feel loss. I feel like I can not connect. I get anxious. I get nauseous.  
  4. I prefer much smaller groups because I can actually feel connected and like people “care”.
  5. Small talk is just not for me. I like meaningful conversations           
  6. Myrtle beach is BOOMIN at night (this was my first time since I moved here, in fact ever, that I was out past dark LOL)

Sunday Funday

Part of my Sunday Funday routine is, suprisingly, Church!  I have found a pretty awesome contemporary Presbyterian church that I absolutely LOVE. In fact, it makes me feel like I have a “home” and people care about me.

Being new to SC and pretty much alone , this is so important to me. This is a wonderful community and the music really uplifts me. I am actually surprising myself that I enjoy it so much!! At this point in my life, it is just SO meaningful to me. The sermons really hit home. They are geared towards where I am currently in my life. Finding myself, being true to myself and ultimately seeking happiness, pleasure and fulfillment in my job and personal life. As a child, I pretty much dreaded waking up to go to church. It became a task and something I avoided. Now I am finding that I can still believe what I want to believe in and just have a place that makes me smile and cheers me up and sets me up for a better day. Not being forced to do something is so freeing 🙂  It sort of feels like I am at a rock concert with the electric guitars and catchy songs (displayed across a big screen so that you can sing along, SHHHHHH do not tell my mom this!)

From from these days………

I FINALLY cleaned up my guest room and set my lovely cream sofa up! I had to maneuver the two twin beds in the room, but I think I managed to find a happy balance, for the time being. I am still trying to decide how to set up my Guest Room.  I currently have one single bed and my couch in there.  It would be fine for one person visiting, but when my parents come, it will be a problem. Sure they could sleep in my room and I could take the single couch, but that sort of defeats the purpose of my guest room. So Ill be on the hunt for inspiration and ideas. At least the couch is set up and

Monday

Meal prep for the week (love doing this!)

Bike ride (looking for fall door decor ideas!)

Walk with Lily ❤

Unpacked ANOTHER box of kitchen items (wooooo)

Checked out a few developments for mom and dad. One of which I really love love love!  

     

listened to my newest audio book

cleaned 🙂

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Saturday safes

 

Happy Saturday!

3 Day Weekend, Sunny(ish) skies, hope:  Just  a few words that describe my current mood

I am FINALLY beginning to feel like myself, and that is VERY new to me. For years I have struggled trying to find “myself”. Now I am finally seeing me seep through

The past few weeks have been filled with MANY UPs and DOWNs. This plays along nicely (yet unhealthy) with my “black or white” , all or nothing type of thinking and personality.  I have a very difficult time with the in between. Once I figure out how to grasp that, I will be so much better off and SO Much more energized and less exhausted

My mind exhausts me. My emotions sometimes leave me feeling more depleted than running a marathon.

This also leads me to the question, “Do I exhaust others?”

EMOTIONAL VAMPIRE

Because I know that some people and personalities really deplete me and I want to just RUN far away because , I personally, can not handle their high emotions along with mine. Found this GREAT ARTICLE to help determine if YOU exhaust others. Not that there is anything wrong with it, you are who you are and may like it!  Take the test! Share your score (If you want!)

 

I see how my mind and moods work. I tend to over react, create drama and gravitate towards negativity. I love to VENT and get it all out and only THEN do I realize how silly I am being. When I say things out loud (or journal) I feel so MUCH BETTER. This is something I am working on, however also realizing this just may be how I cope with things, and there is nothing wrong with that

I have spent most of my life thinking I was WRONG. Now I am realizing, I am not wrong, I am doing what is right for ME. It may not work for everyone, but it is working for me.

So, here is a little bit of ME from the week 🙂

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Mini golf with the girls. Ok, so I actually really ENJOYED this!! It was fun, active and a challenge, plus I got to meet and talk to so many great girls!

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After the mini golf, a stop at the Fudgery 🙂

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So, I finally pulled the trigger and tried out a Pole Dancing class!! Here is the studio, and waiting to head in 🙂

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haha! I absolutely LOVED it. I laughed, was challenged and most importantly , finally felt FREE! I was able to let loose and just let my body spin around that pole! It honestly was the BEST feeling I have had in such a long time. No expectations, or fears. I just did it and went with what felt GOOD

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Happy 🙂

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Silly 🙂

And finally! My chair hardware ARRIVED!

I ordered a lovely office chair to complete my home office space, yet it arrived missing the hardware! Grrrrrrrr. I called and they apologized and shipped out the parts to me this week!

Here it is, plus it is SUPER comfy, and YES mother I did put felt on the bottoms not to scratch my floors 🙂

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Burnt coffee

Life is like………..Burnt Coffee 

I recently left my coffee pot on and went out for the day……I came home to a STRONG smell of …..burnt coffee!


I expected the pot to be unsalvageable but to my surprise a bit of water, soap and soaking quickly made it look like new, kind of like LIFE. Sometimes when you think things are bad, unchangeable, lost, you find that hope and strength to make changes 🙂

 

My coffee mishap taught me a few things.

1.  Don’t leave coffee pot on all day again 🙂

2.  Be more aware and present so not to over look the small simple things (pay attention to what is right before you, just like a coffee pot that needs turning OFF)

3.  Focus on one thing at a time.  Otherwise I will just feel “burnt” like my coffee. Trying to do too much has only negatively impacted my life. It only leads to extreme burn out and feeling down.

Life’s little lessons ❤

The idea of changing the focus of my blog to coffee is interesting and I am looking forward to having some great reviews.BUT as much as I love coffee I realize I am no pro. Far from it. I recently came across these top coffee blogs and woah what a brew of information. I would rather follow these blogs from time  to time than commit to becoming a coffee connoisseur.  For me it USED to be all or nothing thinking but that’s changing 🙂 I can and have the power to customize my blog. I can do a little coffee and a little “me” 🙂

Sure I’ll focus on coffee , reviews and trends at times but not all the time.  As much as I want to take a little turn in my blog I also don’t want to give up other things I love writing about so much.   I think I need and want to focus on my journey and adventures.

I’ll leave the deep (and sometimes dark) thoughts to my journal and close family/friends.  I too often vent and “give up” initially when something is new    After comfort settles in I feel like a new woman  with new perspective  and see how silly I was! I see I need to make things BIG in order to bring them back to reality and cope with them. This is great for me but I just need at this time different vices to express that 🙂

So today my coffee talk thought is this challenge:

Try and do one new thing each day

Yes.  That simple

A new activity, a new route, a new food, a new way of doing something at work, doing something I have always avoided in a more positive way

Basically leaving my comfort zone behind

By trying new things. I am actually “living”.  Leaving old habits and routines behind is so good for me.

Keep up the good work ME!!

Some randomness

  

I miss this woman more than words can tell. Mama was here for a visit. It was the BEST feeling in the world. I love having her here with me, BUT life is such and she must get home to her life back in NJ. I can NOT wait until the next time she visits.  Here she is enjoying herself at dinner 🙂
  

Spotted! During our outlet journey! I can NOT get over the cuteness!

 

My sunny room ❤

Greetings from jersey. It feels amazing and so comforting to come home after work and receive a letter from a friend in NJ ❤  

New travel buddy:  Kemit the frog. I can NOT get him out of my car!