I am so sad and upset with our culture and society. As someone in recovery from an eating disorder it is so clear and apparent why we, women, never feel good enough.
The expectation from society and from ourselves……..
From skin color to weight.
Being a perfect mom
gourmet organic chef
…..and of course documenting all of this EXCELLENCE on social media so that we can prove that we are good enough to ourselves and everyone else.
YET we don’t believe this about ourselves.
Beautiful picture perfect from the outside. The inside is a whole different story
Fighting for equality when our skin color , hair color or sexuality are not “ideal”. It is all so upsetting and disappointing. It is 2017 and we are living In a bubble.
Placing unrealistic expectations on others and ourselves.
We are the first ones to point out everyone else’s flaws yet fail to see what is right there in front of us
So what do we do?
Stuff it away.
Stage those perfect pictures.
Deprive ourselves of delicious foods.
Tell ourselves we are not thin. Enough Fit enough. Beautiful enough.
We try to change everything on the outside. Keep focusing and fixing the “outside” of ourselves…… Those perfect family photos.
The organic paleo foods we eat and spend hours perfectign
The hours we fool ourselves that we really enjoy and love the gym, yet end up dreading it because it feels more of a punishment than a reward
It’s all an act and cover up; to do in place of dealing what is really there inside is. Not feeling good enough
How can we? We have these expectations from society and ourselves that is impossible to live up to. Yet we keep pretending that we are happy !
So what can we do???
Please stop reading into society’s mixed messages. Ignore the ridiculousness of it all. Find out what really matters to you.
Would you rather be 10 pounds lighter but BE miserable and a slave to restricting, dieting. Exercising. Obsessing?
Instead try to work on being happy. Doing things that give you pleasure. Doing things for others. Spending your time and energy on people and experiences that matter. We are the only ones that can change the future for ourselves and our children. The main word here is YOU. You need to take care of yourself, do what you want and feels good and is right for YOU, not what everyone else says is right. You know yourself better than anyone. Start TRUSTING yourself!
Be open and willing to learn new things about others and ourselves. Don’t shun someone immediately for making a mistake. Instead take he time to inform and teach.
Enjoy life and seek pleasure instead of inflicting pain and shame.
I spent the past 36 years living and striving for perfection. What I did not know is that I already am perfect just as I am. So are you.
Life’s too short Make the best of each day. And eat the chocolates cake (if you want it!)