All Great and Precious Things

Are Lonely ~ John Steinbeck

READING

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Two Nights in Lisbon  (free on kindle unlimited)- finished this within two days. The exotic setting, the fast pace mystery. Definitely tense but very interesting! 

Leaving  (under $10 on kindle)- I don’t even know where to begin with this book. First, read the triggers. This IS about infidelity, as the title suggests.  It is harrowing. It is uncomfortable. It is confusing, it brings up SO many thoughts and feelings, yet I can’t put it down.  

Out on a Limb  ($3.99 on kindle)- Winnifred “Win” McNulty has always been wildly independent. Not one to be coddled for her limb difference, Win has spent most of her life trying to prove that she can do it all on her own. And, with some minor adjustments, she’s done just fine. That is until she has a one-night stand with the incredibly charming Bo, a perfect stranger. And that one night changes everything. While Bo is surprisingly elated to step upto the plate, Win finds herself unsure of whether she can handle this new challenge on her own or if she’ll need a helping hand. Together, Win and Bo decide to get to know one another as friends and nothing more. But, as they both should know by now, life rarely goes according to plan. 

Content Warnings:

-graphic sexual content, pregnancy and symptoms of pregnancy, brief discussion of abortion (pro-choice stance, not performed), ableism in reference to a limb difference, verbally abusive ex-partner (no reappearance), death of a parent (past, off page) depression and suicide (past, off page), cancer (past, not reoccurring), amputation (referenced, past)

Two Nights in Lisbon (free on kindle unlimited) – What a fun, quick, and tense read!  I really enjoyed the Lisbon references (although I would have loved more descriptive setting details) but a great quick read involving a strong female character with the mystery created right from the start!

Listen for the Lie ( I am definitely doing this on audio!!) A thrilling mystery centered around a true crime podcast investigation of a small-town murder.

SHARING

Dabbling with Whiskey? Here are some bartenders recommendations for the newbies 

Spring cocktail recipes

Speaking of cocktails, here is how to PERFECT yours

What a GENIUS idea for hosting your next cocktail party! Wow

This home is stunning

WANTING

* I would really love to see and/or hear  about any purchases you make (or wish you could make)  through my recommendations! I love to see what others like

Shorts!  Cute shorts, bloomer style,and obv adore these, 

These nameplate necklaces are adorable for yourself or a teen in your life (love that you can customize the script)

Love this silk robe, would be perfection after an “everything” shower

I love these timeless earrings!! She has great items on her site!  I am a fan!

She is gorgeous

This (amazon) dress is amazing! This one, too!

Great little crossbody

Another great “tea party” dress

Just got this and this skirt with this crop top,  love each equally and I can definitely mix and match the pieces

Two reasonably priced (and kindle friendly) handbags I am eyeing:  One and Two

A true flower I will not kill, only build and nurture 🙂 

I swear by this hydrating yet light facial moisturizer, just order some more as I am out!

These spring-y New Balance sneaks, in moss

My type of (ruffle collar) dress

THINKING

Loneliness IS at epidemic levels. – Loneliness is reaching epidemic levels, yet discussing it remains challenging. Regardless of one’s relationship status, loneliness persists as a significant issue. When broaching this topic, the typical response often feels dismissive, like the cliché “You are never alone; you are your own best friend.”

This sort of advice does little to address the profound impact of loneliness. Loneliness isn’t just a state of being alone; it’s a profound emotional experience. Two individuals facing identical circumstances may feel vastly different emotions—one might feel content, while the other is consumed by loneliness.

At times, the sense of emptiness is overwhelming. Engaging in activities like volunteering, joining groups, or reconnecting with old friends can be suggested remedies, but they often fall short of resolving the deep-seated feeling of loneliness.

The crux of the issue lies in the absence of meaningful connections and intimacy. It’s about having someone genuinely interested in your day, emotions, passions, and concerns—not just yourself. While self-care and self-compassion are crucial, genuine intimacy often requires external connections, devoid of a strictly sexual connotation, which can be challenging, especially for women.

The quest for intimacy and connection is ongoing. Even on days when solitude is cherished, the desire for meaningful interactions persists. Engaging in solitary pursuits like reading, reflecting, and creativity is fulfilling, but the reciprocity of genuine human connection remains irreplaceable.

Building a circle of close friends who offer the desired intimacy is valuable, yet it’s unrealistic to expect a single person to fulfill all intimacy needs. However, navigating this journey requires openness and vulnerability, qualities often stigmatized, particularly for single, childless women content with their status.

Having the freedom to contemplate these complexities is a privilege, contrasting with the busy routines of family life or other obligations. However, this freedom comes from past struggles and growth, highlighting the importance of self-acceptance and personal evolution.

Life isn’t binary; moments of contentment coexist with moments of loneliness, regardless of circumstances. Acknowledging and navigating these nuances is essential to fostering genuine connections and combating the pervasive impact of loneliness in modern society.

VOMIT

So excited for some sunshine and warmth next week as I head to SC to visit my mom !  I am hoping to get in a few bike rides and beach walks to my favorite beach location. Maybe even do some flower shopping in honor of my dad and plant some beautiful things for him and us.

Again, the idea of WATCHING a movie, series, documentary sounds so appealing and soothing to me, yet I struggle to actually do it.  Yet I continue to compile lists of things I WANT TO WATCH, (Sigh) How do people have TIME for watching? Genuinely curious!

There is nothing better than a rainy day and a few good books

I Read Books in (Philly/South Jersey) Bars

Picture this: you’re cozied up in a plush armchair, a tantalizing cocktail in one hand and a captivating book in the other. The ambiance is as smooth as the whiskey, and the only thing louder than your thoughts is the gentle clinking of ice cubes. Welcome to the world of bookworms who’ve discovered the secret to multitasking – sipping, flipping pages, and occasionally spilling secrets over a well-worn novel. If you’re in search of the perfect blend of literature and libations, join me as we embark on a tipsy tale through some of the best bars and lounges where books are not just for show, but an essential part of the intoxicating experience.

On a balmy afternoon not too long ago, I gathered my Kindle, earbuds, and trusty notebook for a jaunt to Philadelphia, the famed city of brotherly love. As I hopped onto the train, I found it peppered with energetic young students who seemed to have kicked off their festivities surprisingly early (it was barely 3 pm!). My inner grumpiness toyed with the idea of shouting “SHUT UP!” but the prospect of facing off against a rowdy pack of (undoubtedly strong) college students quickly quashed that notion.

I redirected my focus inward, mapping out a strategy for embarking on an exploration of Philadelphia’s dark and dramatic bars and lounges – those ideal havens for immersing oneself in a good book while savoring delectable cocktails.

Here is what I found and can recommend , also, I would like to note, these recommendations fall on the “earlier” side (think 5 pm happy hour/cocktail and a book), I can’t guarantee the solitude at say, 10 pm!  Choose your reading times wisely!:

The LIbrary Bar

 Sunday-Thursday — 5:00 pm-11:00 pm

Friday-Saturday — 5:00 pm-12:30 am 

This is located within the elegant Rittenhouse hotel. This is a dream. It is small, encased by books, with lovely bartenders. The lovely bartender on staff offered me some suggestions, a tour, and a bottle of water.  He has worked there for over 9 years and his favorite drink to make and drink is The Old Fashioned. A book in one hand, an old fashioned in the other. What more can you ask for?   This spot is small, quiet, and cozy as well. *Insider tip – Sometime in April, there will be a special event and cocktails involving….tea’s 🙂  You can bet I will be there!

The Wayward

Open daily 11:30 am – 12:00 am

this is a gem in the city! A friend recommended, and I have now visited several times. Great, flexible seating, wonderful people watching, and clearly perfect reading space (and energy)  Tip – the bathrooms are located downstairs and are unisex 

Wildfether Distilling (Haddonfield, NJ)

Wednesday 5-10. Thursday 5-10. Friday 4-11. Saturday 12-11. Sunday 12-8

This is a hot spot located in the quaint Haddonfield, NJ. Just a short Patco ride over from Philadelphia.  Cozy yourself up as there is an upstairs and a downstairs. Aperfect spot for a cocktail and a book!

Parc  

Monday – Thursday: 8am-11am (breakfast); 11am-3pm (lunch); 3-5pm (mid-day); 5-10pm (dinner)

Friday: 8am-11am (breakfast); 11am-3pm (lunch); 3-5pm (mid-day); 5-11pm (dinner)

Saturday: 10am-3pm (brunch); 3-5pm (mid-day); 5-11pm (dinner)

Sunday: 10am-3pm (brunch); 3-5pm (mid-day); 5-10pm (dinner)

If you can grab a spot on a sunny/warm day, I suggest an outdoor table at The Parc.  Not only is this the perfect spot to read, sip and eat, you can also do some great people watching!

Estia Taverna (Marlton, NJ)

Sunday – Thursday: 3pm – Last Seating 8:30pm

Friday & Saturday: 3pm – Last Seating 9:30pm

On a recent Sunday early evening, I cozied myself up to the bar here, along with my kindle and my lap top. The open air breeze blew in and made this true, uninterrupted joy.  Highly recommended for a quiet spot perfect for your latest novel 

Writers Block Rehab – grab a drink and bring your book to this aesthetically appealing wood-paneled library themed bar, with life size scrabble board. The menus are …..books. Gasp!

The Commons Lounge (Inside the Logan) – stylish and inviting, cozy yourself right up with a great novel and a great cocktail. 

**I Will be periodically updating as I come across new locations 🙂

On Appetite

READING

Just loaded this new thriller (it is an Amazon March first reads pick) to my new kindle (squeal). To be honest, I am reading this for the setting. Take me to Napa, please!

Things I have read this week (or am almost finished reading) 

Piglet – an eerie and introspective look into a modern woman’s appetite for life, food , and her ambitions.Overall, “Piglet” is a hauntingly real exploration of women’s desires and dilemmas, wrapped in a captivating story that resonates on multiple levels. It’s a book that invites readers to reflect on their own aspirations and the societal forces that shape them—a literary gem that leaves a lasting impression.

First Lie Wins – characters navigating complex relationships and secrets while maintaining a precarious balance between their past and present identities.

The New Couple in 5B -gripping and suspenseful mystery that explores the darker side of human nature, with a touch of paranormal elements and a fast-paced, thrilling plot.

The Comeback: A thought-provoking story about a young woman overcoming trauma and sexual abuse in the challenging world of Hollywood, while reclaiming her power and voice in the #MeToo era.

Good Material – A FIVE star read for me! I absolutely adored this!! A bit of humor and a bit of reality. This novel follows a break up from the man’s perspective. So good!!

 
THINKING

I recently delved into the world of “Piglet,” a novel that cunningly delves into the modern woman’s appetite and ambitions, both literally and figuratively. What started as a rollercoaster of emotions, veering from anger to heartache, finally unraveled into a realization that echoed the experiences of many women, including myself.

From a young age, we’re fed a diet of so-called truths and beliefs, swallowing them whole in search of acceptance and love. But what happens when those beliefs turn into shackles, binding us to false narratives and limiting our self-expression?

Like many, I was no stranger to bullying and shame, experiences that etched themselves deeply into my being. The echoes of derogatory words and hurtful actions followed me, shaping how I viewed myself and others. I watched my mother endure similar treatment, developing a resilience that I, too, adopted as a survival mechanism.

But resilience shouldn’t mean conformity or self-erasure. It shouldn’t translate to conditional love or acceptance, where we’re only valued when we fit into predetermined molds. It took me years to realize that love shouldn’t come with strings attached, nor should acceptance be contingent on conformity.

Now, I’m on a journey of undoing and unraveling. I’m reclaiming my appetites, from culinary delights to unapologetic passions, free from the constraints of societal expectations. I refuse to be a caricature of who others want me to be, opting instead to authentically embrace every facet of myself.

So here’s to rewriting our stories, challenging the myths that have confined us, and embracing our truest selves—cheekiness, appetites, ambitions, and all. Because in the end, the most revolutionary act is daring to be unapologetically, unabashedly you.

WANTING

Really wanting to try this plumping, smoothing, healing lip balm, has anyone tried it? 

these raffia bow mules (SQUEAL) are so adorable for spring/summer

Adorable little night table lamp

This pajama set looks dreamy

LOVE this simple mini, so much

Just ordered another set of these incredible pillows for my guest bed

Casual, baggy, work pants

Another comfy summer set option

Such a great alternative to candy for the easter basket, any little would love this water bottle design kit

Cute classy sunglasses 🙂 

Such a pretty spring/summer party dress

Wanting to try the latest “blush”ing trend (hahah) Apparently this blush is perfection, achieving the look of “just running up the stairs” or “Being kissed for the first time”  

Excellent, oversized sweatshirt for lounging (and reading)

BRILLIANT idea – clean/dirty dishwasher magnet!

A great straw tote at a great price

Pretty lace flats

Loving this set, looks like great quality too!

Love these jeans

Remote control page turner for Kindle (or iPad) 

BEDROOM REFRESH

Scalloped edges

Lightweight coolness

Pretty botanicals

Pink carafe for the bedside (under $20)

Stunning (but sold out) artwork

Not bedroom, but bath, I ADORE this scallop edged shower curtain, this one is adorable and more affordable, too

This bar cabinet is STUNNING

SHARING

Road trip to visit some of the best cocktail bars in the US (of course Ill bring along my book, since Diana J (I read books in bars)

This MASSIVE list of podcast recommendations! This will keep you informed and entertained for months!

I could stay in a hidden library in St. Paul’s Cathedral. Sold!

Bookmarking this for the next “First Date” I go on 🙂

VOMIT

So excited to be working on a local (Philly/South jersey) “I Read Books In Bars” piece! I am exploring, and interviewing various locations to see if they would make a great reading spot , along with a great cocktail 🙂  I am having so much fun

Also in the works in a Best Bar/Lounges in the US to read a book at !  I have reached out to many people all over the US to carefully curate the BEST guide for all you bibliophiles/cocktail lovers like myself

On Sweeping Me Off My Feet

READING

If you haven’t read The Idea of You (read for free on kindle unlimited), yet, please go read it, it is spicy for sure, then you will be ready to watch the newest book to screen adaptation , trailer here

This was a really great reading week!  I ended up scooping up a great deal on the discontinued Kindle Oasis (it has side buttons to flip pages – GASP!) I struck an excellent deal, unfortunately it is gone, but if you are in the market, the Paperwhite is the best way to go, you will love it! And the best part will be shopping for a fun cover that exudes YOU. (See below for my recommendations)

The Stillwater Girls (free on kindle unlimited includes whispernet – which is audio) so you can hybrid read (my fave way to read)   

Good Material – I am loving this clever little novel telling the story of a break up from the mans perspective. Feels spot on and hilarious and has me shaking my head right along with it!!

Fault Lines (free on kindle unlimited)- Wow, what a happy surprise this backlist find has been! I absolutely adore this captivating novel about a Japanese housewife in an unfulfilling marriage and feeling lost in motherhood, when she rediscovers herself and her passions…..read the triggers (infidelity, etc)

A Court of Thorns and Roses – I just started this, not sure if I will persist, so far I am really enjoying it, but it is LONG, and I can only do “fantasy” for so long, it is so widely discussed and beloved, I had to give it a try

The Comeback

Grace Turner was one movie away from Hollywood’s A-List. So no one understood why, at the height of her career and on the eve of her first Golden Globe nomination, she disappeared.

Now, one year later, Grace is back in Los Angeles and determined to reclaim her life on her own terms.So when Grace is asked to present a lifetime achievement award to director Able Yorke–the man who controlled her every move for eight years–she knows there’s only one way she’ll be free of the secret that’s already taken so much from her.

This new release (March 19) sounds so good, Annie Bot,

Annie Bot was created to be the perfect girlfriend for her human owner Doug. Designed to satisfy his emotional and physical needs, she has dinner ready for him every night, wears the pert outfits he orders for her, and adjusts her libido to suit his moods. True, she’s not the greatest at keeping Doug’s place spotless, but she’s trying to please him. She’s trying hard.

She’s learning, too.

Doug says he loves that Annie’s AI makes her seem more like a real woman, so Annie explores human traits such as curiosity, secrecy, and longing. But becoming more human also means becoming less perfect, and as Annie’s relationship with Doug grows more intricate and difficult, she starts to wonder: Does Doug really desire what he says he wants? And in such an impossible paradox, what does Annie owe herself?

THINKING

The question I am most often asked……“Why are you single?”. Here are my thoughts:

Because I am……

Holding Out for a Hero ~ Bonnie Tyler

Where have all the good men gone

And where are all the gods?

Where’s the streetwise Hercules

To fight the rising odds?

Isn’t there a white knight upon a fiery steed

Late at night, I toss and I turn

And I dream of what I need

I need a hero

I’m holding out for a hero ’til the end of the night

He’s gotta be strong, and he’s gotta be fast

And he’s gotta be fresh from the fight

I need a hero

I’m holding out for a hero ’til the morning light

He’s gotta be sure, and it’s gotta be soon

And he’s gotta be larger than life

Larger than life

Somewhere after midnight

In my wildest fantasy

Somewhere, just beyond my reach

There’s someone reaching back for me

Racing on the thunder

And rising with the heat

It’s gonna take a Superman to sweep me off my feet, yeah

I need a hero

Answer:  I am single because I simply, CHOOSE TO BE

After traversing the tumultuous landscape of relationships, I’ve chosen to prioritize my own well-being. It’s been a journey marked by profound self-discovery and growth, punctuated by moments of introspection and revelation. Through it all, I’ve come to understand the intrinsic value of self-love and self-respect – essential pillars upon which true happiness is built. Hence, here I stand, unattached yet brimming with a newfound sense of empowerment. Yes, the paradox of being single and content is indeed real.

As the sands of time have shifted, so too have my perceptions of gender dynamics. What once seemed like a homogenous landscape has revealed itself to be a tapestry woven with intricacies and nuances. My ideals and aspirations have evolved dramatically over the years. Gone are the days of conforming to societal norms dictating the pursuit of a conventional life – the proverbial white picket fence, obedient children, and a successful spouse. Instead, I’ve embraced the liberating truth of female resilience and capability. We are architects of our own destiny, imbued with strength, determination, and boundless potential.

In seeking a partner, my compass points towards equilibrium – a harmonious blend of trust, communication, and reciprocity. While cognizant of the imperfections inherent in any relationship, I remain steadfast in my belief that mutual effort and understanding can surmount any obstacle. Yet, amidst the vast expanse of potential suitors, I find myself grappling with the scarcity of individuals who embody these ideals in their entirety.

Nevertheless, a flicker of hope persists within me. Somewhere, amidst the cosmic chaos, exists a kindred spirit – a soul capable of embracing my essence, flaws and all, with unwavering acceptance and love. Reflecting on past dalliances, I am struck by a profound sense of resolution. No longer shall I acquiesce to mediocrity or compromise my worth for the sake of companionship. My standards are elevated, my resolve unyielding.

For I’ve discovered that true contentment stems not from external validation, but from an intrinsic sense of fulfillment derived from self-reliance and autonomy. While the prospect of a supportive partner remains enticing, I refuse to settle for anything less than genuine affection and respect. I am a proponent of growth, exploration, and intellectual stimulation, seeking a companion who shares these values and complements my journey.

In essence, I yearn for a partnership characterized by mutual trust, respect, and intellectual synergy – a bond that transcends the mundane and propels us towards collective growth and fulfillment. Until such a union manifests, I find solace in the pursuit of self-discovery and the cultivation of my own passions and pursuits.

So yes, “It’s gonna take a superman to sweep me off my feet”

WANTING

I am super excited to visit my mama during spring break. I am hoping the weather lives up to my hopes (sunshine, warmth) This is inspiring me to freshen up my wardrobe with some fun new pieces to flaunt around SC 😉 

Such a cute summer set! Almost identical here

love this , for this season and next winter!

Oh! I think I need these (perfect for my upcoming reading retreat?!) Or maybe this instead?

Gah! I love this mini

cute ‘kini for the summer 🙂

she is so pretty

Oh la la, these gold heels are STUNNING (Under $100)

This kindle (The price is a STEAL)  is sitting in my cart right now.(Update:  I clicked “Order now”)  I keep teetering with hitting purchase, or not.  (oh, I ordered it) Gah! I read A LOT (keep an eye out for a post on this, coming soon!) and mostly e-books and audio, so I know I would be doing my eyesight a favor, and it would also make my reading in bed much more comfortable, I can also read outside at the pool or beach (my iPad kindle app currently gets too hot in the sun and there is a glare)  But it is a bit pricey. Also, I would be lying if I didn’t say another thing pulling me is the adorable kindle covers like this, this , or this!  Ok, I caved and ordered the Oasis (Great price, could not resist) This is the case I  ended up ordering, personalized with my name : ) 

Take all my money! This is a cute (affordable) spring/summer lounge set

I know my mom will yell at me (“Don’t get wicker, it will be hard to clean #polishmoms) but I do love the fresh look of this (afforable!) bed and side table. I hate the bulkiness of my current bedroom furniture. I picture this with some pretty white sheer curtains and a white fluffy comforter, lots of pillows……ahhhh

Such a great jean jacket!

WOW! Someone buy  these gorgeous cocktail glasses! Then invite me over for a drink

These Target wicker bunnies are so sweet!

When life gives you lemons vibes

This is a great denim dress for summer

SHARING

One line reading prompt

I REALLY want to go to London – travel guide inspo

I really want to do an afternoon tea in NYC

What type of trip should you take according to your zodiac. Mine is SPOT ON!!! (solo, lol)

Been hearing a lot of Buzz about Poor Things (on Hulu) If you liked Saltburn (like my creepy mind did) this may be for you. I will check it out for sure!

This show is also giving major Saltburn vibes

Inspired to visit NYC soon and look at some art

VOMIT

A dollhouse bookish library. I am so jealous. I want to shrink myself and live here 

The Home Edit posted this HAPPY photo (inspo!)

I find myself weary of the constant struggle, the ceaseless battle within my mind and body. It weighs heavily not just on me, but also on those closest to me, particularly my mother, who bears the brunt of my internal battles. These thoughts, though mere phantoms to some, seem so real to me, like insidious impostors usurping my very identity. This unwelcome companion has lingered for what feels like an eternity, at least forty long years. Breaking free from its grip proves to be a daunting task.

I’ve come to recognize that I no longer require the company of this unwelcome guest, yet saying goodbye proves to be a challenge. Anger simmers within me for allowing this intruder such sway over my life, permitting it to dictate my every move and mood. The cycle of self-recrimination only exacerbates the turmoil, perpetuating the vicious spiral.

Some days, the burden feels lighter, the thoughts more subdued, almost comforting. Other days, however, the weight is crushing, suffocating any semblance of tranquility. All I yearn for is a sense of inner peace, a steadiness in my emotions. Yet, I acknowledge that such fluctuations are an inherent part of the human experience.

While many affirm that I am the master of my fate, navigating these tumultuous waters proves far from straightforward. If it were, I wouldn’t feel compelled to pour my heart out to the universe. I am cognizant of insanity as repeating the same actions while expecting different results. I understand that I hold the reins to my own life, that I am worthy and unique. So why, then, do I struggle to extend that same kindness to myself? Why is it so difficult to diffuse that which no longer serves me?

The familiarity and comfort, proves to be an adversary. It enraptures me, deceives me, and at times, offers a semblance of solace. Yet, these comforts are reminiscent of an abusive relationship, convincing me of their necessity.

Though it may seem surreal to personify these “thoughts” as separate entities, I am aware that we all grapple with our inner demons. The effort required to persist, to forge ahead, feels draining, yet capitulating to these forces exacts an even heavier toll. Still, I am gripped by fear – fear of trusting myself, fear of the unknown, fear of stagnation. Yet, I refuse to let fear dictate the course of my life.

I refuse to look back a decade from now, regretting that I remained mired in this same struggle. Change must happen now. I simply crave a guiding hand, a comforting embrace – a reassurance that everything will indeed be okay. I do need a hero (see above) 

And you know what? It will be.

On Reading Therapy

READING

A Place for Us – This is longer one at 400 pages, but I breezed through it. This is a slow burn story. This is a story of culture and family. It follows an Indian family of 5, their customs and values, and the lives of the parents and 3 children. The book begins with an Indian wedding and the families only son makes an appearance. He has been estranged for quite some time (reasons as to why will slowly seep in throughout the pages). This book is written through chapters of family members perspectives. The final chapter, is the fathers perspective , and to be honest it was quite difficult to read, recently losing my father. It reminded me so much of my own father, and many of the thoughts and beliefs he truly had but never really was able to verbalize or vocalize, because he just did not know how. This is a book that will stay with you for quite some time. It leaves you understanding so much more and taking a look at your own families beliefs.

Social Creature – This one gives major “Saltburn” vibes, without all the grossness (you KNOW what I am talking about (wink, wink) ) They go through both bottles of champagne right there on the High Line, with nothing but the stars over them… They drink and Lavinia tells Louise about all the places they will go together, when they finish their stories, when they are both great writers-to Paris and to Rome and to Trieste…

Lavinia will never go. She is going to die soon.

Last Call at the Local – this was such a sweet book. Total pallet cleanser. Adorable romance with gentleness, the characters are so likeable. OCD and ADHD are represented quite accurately, in my opinion. Also, this book makes me want to book my ticket to LONDON, ASAP!

Good Material – a break up story, from the mans perspective. So far super cheeky and some great pro-women banter.

The Stillwater Girls – my friend recommended this, and we have similar book tastes, she breezed through this thriller in a few hours, and I am right behind her. She was right! (free on kindle unlimited!)

Very Interested in reading this memoir about a writer living the first 60 years of their life as a man then going through a later in life gender transition.

2024 Most Anticipated New Reads

Patiently waiting for Leaving to release on Audio format!

THINKING

In honor of Eating Disorder awareness week coming to an end, I just read an interview with Sam Tyron, RD. They are a registered dietician with a focus on diet culture and the vilification of fatness. They have many great facts and stats about diet culture, fatness, and the huge disparity of black people in larger bodies. I suggest giving them a follow! I found myself pondering about the following:

How can we tell if our eating/food habits are actually a toxic diet in disguise?
Ask yourself these questions:

• Are you feeling morally superior to others, more disciplined, etc. because you eat a certain way? 
• Do you judge your worth differently when you choose certain foods compared to others? 
• Is the part of you that tells you to eat certain foods and avoid others coming from a place of fear?  
• Do you feel a lack of agency over your eating?  

All of these can be signs that societal acceptance is driving your food choices/eating habits.

Would love to hear your answer, if you are comfortable sharing!

On a lighter note, I wish I could spend my days researching and curating lists of books, from newest releases, debut novels, and author events. The thought of this brings me so much JOY. I try to incorporate little bits and pieces into my blogs and days, BUT it is a full-time job. It is a time-consuming hobby, which is a good problem to have 🙂
Bijal Shah has my dream job. She recently wrote Bibliotherapy: The Healing Power of Reading. She carefully curates lists of books for her clients to read. She incorporates literature into a therapeutic tool. How cool is this, right? My two favorite things. Books and people’s thoughts. Bibliotherapy is new to me but has been around for quite some time. It was coined in 1916 by Samuel McCord Crothers in the aptly entitled article ‘A Literary Clinic’, but as a concept it has been around for much longer, dating back to the times of the Ancient Greeks. Freud and George Eliot are prime historical examples.
I stand behind Shah in her approach and DO believe that literature and books have a certain healing power. I have learned many lessons from books, mostly FICTION, which may be a surprise. I love reading about healthy relationships, determining the signals of toxic ones, and understanding why some people succumb to adultery. I love hearing other people’s internal thoughts, they would NEVER share with the world, and realize that I am not so different. I am not so alone. I am not the only one feeling/experiencing certain thoughts or feelings.
Reading has also pulled me out of several depressive states. Filling me with hope and inspiration. It has transported me to places I have never been, some I would love to visit, others I have had my fill. It has brought back memories of people in my past and helped me deal with my grief.
Reading has opened my eyes to cultures and others that are NOT like me. I have learned to notice my judgments and determine how much of a role society plays in my own beliefs. I find myself too much sitting back and wondering “Oh my gosh, is someone watching me? This book is about ME!”. That is the best feeling in the world. It is what draws me into my little world. It is what pushes me to pick up another book and continue to read something new, or something similar.
Reading IS my therapy.

Taupe-less beach nail color is just so pretty!

Cute spring like clutch, under $30!

“eyeing” (haha) these readers for the sexy librarian look (under $20)

I’ll Call You and Tell You Things….

Finally a trend I can fully support and engage in! The Nerdy Librarian Geek chic fashion!!!

My mama is so ahead of the trend, this has been her favorite drink as of late, and looks like its making a comeback !

Kate Winslet’s new show premieres soon, and it looks SO GOOD

I AM SCREAMING with joy that my Adidas OG sambas came back into stock in my size. Picking them up today. Will report back (I LOVE THEM- Size down, they run a bit big)

WANTING

$20 high kicks that are on trend? Why not give them a try to see if you like them, guilt free. Here is a link to the original $900 pair. Let me know if you try them!

I *DO* need a new pair of sneakers, these are so cute ,and a bit retro

How cute is this slouchy bag (under $30)

The perfect cozy set in a buttery yellow to carry you through spring

these crocheted slippers are too cute to pass up

Boden’s spring collection includes this adorable raffia cross body bag

These Mary Janes just make me HAPPY

Such a pretty linen dress

VOMIT

99 compliments to give that are not about your appearance

My book club had the best discussion over The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs – even though we have varying thoughts and beliefs, this inspired SUCH a great conversation. Highly recommend if you are looking for an engaged discussion. It was so much fun to see and hear about everyone’s friendships!! *Don’t feel like reading ? Reach out to me and I’ll send you my recap notes on it ;).

My friend and I are going on our own little bookish reading retreat, and I can’t wait!

La Colombe coffee is the superior coffee

My friend is so talented, and creates some beautiful, inspirational, and wise art