Healthy Lifestyle

Each Day is a Gift

Thinking

  • About taking a social media break
  • How sad I am for those that have lost their lives during the terrible storms on the Tatra Mountains, where I just was several days ago…… I am praying that there are no more deaths and my heart and prayers are with those people and families that have lost their lives or family. EVERY DAY IS A GIFT. Read about it here
  • Where do I want to go next?
  • About my school year ahead, I am excited!
  • Pen Paling with my cousin in Poland again
  • I want deeper connections
  • I could use a hug
  • How to spend my last free weekend before the school year begins

Reading

Currently:

Things You Save in a Fire

Just Completed:

Lock Every Door – Typically I have loved all of Riley Sager’s book, but this one?  I don’t understand the high ratings and raves. I thought this was completely unbelievable and not well written. I could not wait for it to be over. It was not scary or thrilling in any aspect.  I give it 2 stars.

Grateful

That my parents return today!

That I no longer have to go between two houses

The bonds I have formed with my parent’s pets

That I was able to get to know my family in Poland on a more intimate level AND that we connected so well!

 

Inspired

Those that live each day and moment as if it was their best day yet

To travel more

To maintain closer relationships with my family, no matter how far they are

To step away from social media a bit and see what it can open up for me

Old pictures

Writing

Sharing myself with others, in a way that is comfortable to me

To find love again, I have lost faith and hope over the years, but I am finally realizing that there is plenty of love out there to give and receive.  Thank you to my cousins “M & T” for showing me this. After 16 years of marriage, they still act like newlyweds. Of course, they have their moments and disagreements but what they also have is loyalty, trust and each other ❤   I am so happy for them and their family

 

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Poland – Part 3 “Zakopane and Krakow”

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I had been to both areas of Poland, Zakopane, and Krakow, before. Not much had changed BESIDES the fact that it too, felt so much more touristy 😦  This makes me so sad because I feel like everywhere is turning into repetitive McDonald’s and quirky t-shirt vendors.  I want neither.

However, that did not put a damper on the amount of beauty, fun, and history I had experienced! I felt like I had my own personal tour guides in Poland, thanks to M & T.  I was so happy and fortunate that we were able to spend a few days together and really get to know each other and grow our bonds.  I hope that they were able to get a better feel of me and know that I love them truly and they will always hold a place in my heart. Again, it had been 16 years since our last escapade, and it felt like no time had passed us by at all. I love this feeling!

We spent our Monday hiking the beautiful and challenging Tatra mountains. (recent tragedy there today)  We ate, rested and set off for Krakow.  Krakow holds a very special place in my heart. Krakow is one of the only cities in Poland that were not completely destroyed by the war(s).  Many original buildings, cobblestone, and castles remain. This adds to the magic of the city.

My cousin, when not forcing up a dangerous mountain (haha), has great knowledge and history of Poland. I loved hearing all the wonderful facts and of course tales, Poland has to offer (“The sleeping giant,  The dragon’s cave, etc).

Our drive to Krakow from Zakopane was beautiful.  I was very quiet as I wanted to take in the beautiful scenes. So many beautiful creatures just wandering around (cattle, sheep, goats)  The rolling hills, the beautiful Goralski Folk homes (They are very unique) Image result for goralski homesImage result for goralski homes

It was a very enjoyable ride, with a great mix of Polish and American music might I add!

We arrived at our hotel/student housing in Krakow and still had plenty of the day left to explore. We unpacked our things and the rooms were VERY clean and just what we needed. Babylon is considered “Student housing” or a “hostel” (NO do not watch the movie) and we had a shared room, meaning we each had our own bedroom (with two dorm room style beds and desks) and we shared the bathroom and kitchen.  It was clean and comfortable. The wifi was not the greatest, as you were only able to use it for an hour at a time, then had to sign back in, but we made it work.

When we were settled we headed out to catch the train into the heart of Krakow 🙂  The location was good, far enough that we did not hear the hustle and bustle of the city BUT in turn, we did hear the hustle and bustle of college students…..all night long 😦  It was still doable 🙂  Image result for frat party

We, of course, were starving so we found a place to rest and eat.  I love all the outdoor dining options, we needed something MEAT for “T” and vegan for me, what a great trio we were!

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Fortunately, this combination was never really a problem. We came across a Gregoria restaurant and quite honestly, I do not remember what we even had. But every meal I had in Poland (except for ONE In Zakopane) was delicious. img_1803img_1809

We later ended up watching some Georgian dancers perform and had a seat at an outdoor cafe and ordered some drinks.  img_1813We wandered about the beautiful city some more and found ourselves returning to our rooms to rest up for the next day.

Near Wawel Castle and the dragon (Breathes smoke on the hour, but today it was not breathing  lol)

Fairytale setting

Inside Wawel Castle

I am glad I took advantage of the dry weather to get my headstand in 🙂

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I woke up my last morning to the sound of rain. “T” wanted to sleep in a bit, so “M” and I grabbed umbrellas (She is SO prepared) and strolled over to a nearby cafe for some coffee and breakfast.  It was so nice to sit and chat as the rain fell 🙂  Honestly the mood was a bit solemn for me, as it was my last day in Poland, with a family that I loved and felt very close to (I wish we were closer).  Yet I was not going to let this day and weather “Rain on my parade”.

We headed back to our rooms and “T” was up, we brought him back some breakfast and started to think about our day.  Since it was rainy, we decided a movie at the famous Kino Pod Baranami  (Cinema Under the Rams) would be a great idea, but it was not until 3 pm.  “M & T” thought about pulling up a movie on their laptop for us to watch, rest, and relax until the weather lifted. I thought this was a lovely idea for them, and it would give them some time alone in this romantic city. I, on the other hand, wanted to go and explore. The idea of coffee shops and book stores along with people watching and walking in the rain, sounded fabulous to me. I told them of my plan and they decided to join me as well, which I think they were extremely happy they did.  This day, without a plan, ended up giving us so many treasures!  We walked around to a few book stores, had coffee, purchased our tickets for our show, and my cousin “M” found a little underground pub that we decided we would take a walk down to and explore. I am so grateful that we did because I think this was possibly the most beautiful bar I have ever been to. What treasure and a find!  We scoped it out, did some headstands (Because WHY NOT) and decided to have a small bite to eat before coming back to see our show.

Rainy day? Still, play

She loves me ❤

 

We found our way to Chimera, which had vegan and non-vegan options (SCORE)img_1827img_1832img_1829

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“T” happy with his non-vegan meal and Compote (non-alcoholic)

We purchased tickets to see “Minding the Gap”, (available on HULU if interested!) it was a documentary that followed 3 men trying to “Skate free” of their addictions. The seats in the cinema were so comfy, it was so damp and rainy out, that we figured, even if it is terrible, we could at least catch a snooze.  The movie ended up being excellent!  Very touching and sad, even brought tears to my eyes.  We dried our eyes and decided to grab something to eat before settling down for an evening drink at our newfound pub.  I wanted Vegan, so vegan it was!  We made our way to the Jewish section of Krakow, which I really wanted to see.img_1841 There were some beautiful synagogues and a little town center to explore. We, well I, decided on falafel, so we found a wonderful Israeli restaurant, Hamsa. I currently am obsessed with falafel and hummus, so this again (As in Paris) was my favorite meal of the trip!  img_1842img_1844img_1843

After dinner, we wandered a bit in the shops and outdoor markets……

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Sukiennice (Or Cloth Hall) in Krakow

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These colorful pysanky eggs brought back SO many childhood memories for me 

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Here are a few photos of the lovely Piwnica Pod Baranami 

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This “basement bar” is the most beautiful and eclectic one I have ever been in!

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Our bartender was fabulous! We told him what we liked, he created individualized drinks for us, we were all pleased!

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We stumbled our way back to our rooms for a few hours of sleep before getting up at 3 am to get ME to the airport in time for my flight home.

It was an amazing adventure filled with food, fun, and most importantly FAMILY.  This is a trip and adventure I will always remember, and I hope it can bring our two worlds closer together.  I plan on keeping communication quite frequent. I would love to continue to Pen Pal with my cousin “A” and her students. I would love to visit each other more often, and most of all, I would love to continue to get to know my family and have them get to know me.

Until my next adventure…..

 

Healthy Lifestyle

Then and Now

Thinking

  • What is next for me?  Where will I go, what will I do? I have a few things up my sleeve, we shall see
  • I really want to be loved, feel loved and give love ❤
  • How beautiful the Polish language is, essentially all European languages. There is just something about the way it sounds. Even the simplest words and phrases sound songlike.  I feel very harsh as an American!
  • When you connect with people, time apart really does not matter, you seem to pick right up where you left off

 

Watching

How things change, yet still remain the same….Then and Now 🙂

Photos are from 1983, 2003, and 2019

 

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Inspired

To slow down.  Between jet lag and running around the past two weeks, I have also done the opposite. Slowed down.  Took my time to eat, walk, read.  It is sensational yet still quite difficult to master. I hope to practice this more often and take in everything at every moment.

Grateful

That I will be reunited with my parents shortly, and that I will not have to tend to the “farm” any longer! I have learned so much about the outdoors and animals the past 3 months, I might even say I enjoyed it if you catch me at a good moment 🙂

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Poland Part 2

Zakopane (Tatra Mountain region)  and Prague

A few more photos from when before my cousin departed…..

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Blueberry Perogies, yup

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Goodbye, my beautiful cousin! 

After my cousin Ania and her family departed (Sniffle, sniffle) , I was with my parents and aunt, uncle and cousin.  I planned on staying in the same cabin BUT it was jam-packed as is, and not one but TWO snorers…..So I was on a mission for accommodations. It was an unsuccessful night one and had to sleep next to the snoring monster…..

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The next morning, I found accommodations about 1.5 miles from my parent’s cabin, it was perfect! It was far enough I would not be able to hear their snores…….(hahahaha)

This was our view from the cabin, of Mount Gievont (read about the tale of the sleeping giant hereSee how it looks like a sleeping giant!?!??!!

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And here you can see Mount Gievont in the background as well (and I wore shorts this time 😉

That evening I wandered around town on the famous Krupowki street. I wander in stores and markets and gathered a few things I needed. I also found a great coffee shop with Almond milk, Costa coffee 🙂  So I was pleased!

The next morning I set off with my aunt to hike the beautiful Morske Oko

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My aunt is an accomplished hiker! I was beyond impressed!

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And of course…..

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The next day I did my own mini hike up to Dolna Gubałówka

I wandered around the shops and took in the breathtaking views before meeting my mom, aunt, and cousin for a stroll through town.

Later that night, we left (at midnight) For our Prague adventure.  We booked our trip with Strama

The bus was very comfortable and our tour guide was phenomenal!  He was so kind and sweet and even fist bumped us several times!  He always made sure we were comfortable. On the trip, we received sandwiches and bottled water. We also received some chapstick!

Here is the official itinerary:

TRIP Schedule

The first day (Saturday)

  • 00:01 Leaving Zakopane
  • 09.30 Arrival at Prague – meet the guide, sightseeing (5 hours):
    • Starhov Monastery
    • Pohorzelec
    • Loreta
    • Prague Castle
    • Garden Valdstein
    • Charles Bridge
  • 14.30 Free time
  • 16.30 Tranfer to the hotel – accomodation
  • 18.30 Dinner in the hotel
  • 19.45 Departure for a Cruise on the Vltava River
  • 21.00 Cruise on the Vltava
  • 22.30 Return to Hotel

The second day (Sunday)

  • 07.30 Breakfast in the hotel
  • 08.30 Departure from hotel
  • 09.00 Meet the guide (4 hours):
    • Wenceslas Square
    • Lucern Palac
    • Church of Our Lady of the Snows
    • New Town Hall Prague
    • Josefov
    • Old Town Prague
    • Municipal House
  • 13.30 Free time
  • 15.30 Departure from Prague
  • 00.00 Planned return to Zakopane

 

It was a 9-hour bus ride, which we all tried to sleep, but it is similar to trying to sleep on a plane….

We arrived in Prague at 9 am and began our 5-hour tour, wandering around the fairytale setting of Prague. it is such a beautiful and romantic city!  Image may contain: sky and outdoor

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We were able to find some ponchos and remained fairly dry for the rest of our tour.  I spotted many places I wanted to visit but time was a constraint. I was able to get a feel of what I would like to visit when I return.

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My favorite part of Prague? Charles Bridge. Just stunning.

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Charles Bridge to the left

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view from the Charles Bridge

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After our tour and some free time to wander, we headed back to our hotel and had dinner. Later we were to depart for a night cruise to see Prague at Night, but I opted out of it as I was barely functioning, like a walking zombie. My parents went and said it was beautiful. I am sorry I missed it but I think I made the right choiceImage may contain: Diana Christine, smiling, outdoor

 

The next morning we had early breakfast and left at 7 am for our next tour. Today was the complete opposite of the previous day. Sun and warmth.  Perfect weather for Prague. This perfect weather also brought the crowds. My beautiful Charles Bridge was barely accessible with the amount of volume on it.

We continued our tour and on our free time, my parents and I found a great little cafe and had a bite to eat.

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Later we found ice cream and had to try this concoction out!

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We ended our tour around 3 and piled back on the bus to return back to Zakopane. It was wonderful and beautiful but way too short for such a captivating city. I will be back 🙂

 

After a few hours of sleep, my cousins T & M were ready to take me on a hike!  Sleep-deprived as was, what was another 8-9 hour hike?

At the start of our hike, I tried to turn back several times. lack of sleep and balance was scaring me. Plus the constant uphill trek on rocks and boulders…..did not look good to me.  However, my slave driver cousin managed to persuade us many times to keep going forward. This would play out several more times throughout our hike.

We hiked the Czerwone Wierchy of Zakopane. This was a heavenly hike. Quite literally. We were so high up, most of the hike was in the clouds!

We started off sweaty and sticky. It was HOT, that was soon to change ….

It started to become so windy that at times, I was getting pushed over and lifted up!  I was terrified, but quickly found out that stopping only made it worse!!  Again, Cousin “T’  told us to keep pushing forward…..so we did!

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Low Visibility + Crazy winds …..

My cousin pretending to get blown away…..

After our hike, we ended with a Polish beer at the bottom of our trek. It was a cute little outdoor pub on the trail!  After our beer, we had another hour or so hike, but it was all downhill…..which caused us to wobble and hobble down.

We later went to our favorite street in Zakopane for some dinner. We were starved!  Finally, we settled in for the night, rested, as we were off to Krakow the next morning!

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Healthy Lifestyle

Passionately Poland

Thinking

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  • How much I learned about myself over the past 12 days of my trip overseas. I found myself in many uncomfortable situations, yet somehow I was able to make the best of them and persevere.  I am really proud of myself and my experiences.  The biggest lesson? I can do things I am uncomfortable with, and continuing to voice myself and be heard helps in so many ways.

Reading

Currently Reading:

The Turn of the Key by Ruth Ware

Normal People 

Read:

The Unbreakables – 3.5 stars. This was a quick and enjoyable read for me!

Want to Read:

Red, White, and Royal Blue

The Right Swipe

The Wild Woman’s Way

Lock Every Door

I read so much and so often, then sometimes I can’t remember a recent book that I JUST READ. This makes me so sad! Love this article and these tips and I will be doing this (Not every single book, but especially non-fiction)

 

Grateful

To live in the United States – the conveniences we have. Sometimes stepping back and away from them is eye-opening, I always return from trips feeling so grateful ❤

For Freedom and diversity

For spending time with my family and parents in Poland (our first time all together there since I was 3!)

For having a safe flight to and from Poland

For being able to live the fairytale of Prague

For speaking up for myself

For finding and enjoying  connection (Surprise!!)

For my big, cozy, fluffy bed

Being able to stretch out

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For realizing, slowly, what I truly need and want

My large shower

exploring nooks and crannies in foreign places

 

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Loving relationships, making it known that it is possible

How little some people have, yet make the most and best of every little thing

Clear communication, standing my ground

The hospitality of others – I was SO spoiled and taken care of in Poland, something DIFFICULT for me to accept, and uncomfortable. Image may contain: food

One of my many breakfasts by “Chef Anna”

This “I Don’t” List 

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My Poland and Prague Trip, Part I

I just spent 12 days traveling all over Poland and Prague. This was surely an adventure and experience I will remember for a lifetime. I really learned so much about Poland, my family and myself.

My flight from Newark to Krakow was wonderful. I had one smooth connection in Frankfurt and was on my way again!  Getting off the plane I was incredibly nervous, I had not seen my cousin Ania since I was 3 or 4 years old!  What if we did not get along? What if we were too different? What if we had nothing to talk about?  Sure enough, my nerves were put to rest as soon as I stepped off the plane and saw this welcoming sign, hahaha, Perfect, we will get along JUST FINE

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Ania’s brother and his fiance joined us for the trek. We drove back a little over an hour to Ania’s lovely town of Dabrowa Gornicza, Where I would spend the next 4 days.  Ania took me up to her lovely condo, introduced me to her 16-year-old son, Michael, we had some coffee and then went to visit her parents. Here is their home (Cool clock, right!!!)IMG_1907[1]

I was feeling quite beaten, not having slept for over 24 hours, but was still going strong. We finally went back to Ania’s and settled in for the night.  I was still in awe that I was actually in Poland with my family and my cousin that I had pen-paled with all year during the school year.

The next day, Monday, we set off for our first adventure. We decided to visit Częstochowa, home to the famous “Black Madonna”.Image result for black madonna poland This brings pilgrimages from all over the world to see her beauty and glory.  Here is some information and things to do in Czestochowa. 

On our drive to Czestochowa, I was in desperate need of coffee thanks to my lack of sleep and jet lag, so we came across this adorable little Alpaca farm and coffee shop!

When we finally arrived at Czestochowa, we were greeted by beautiful songs and music as pilgrimages approached the church!IMG_1914 And of course I had to begin my **headstand challenge, so I found the opportunity and took it, sort of 🙂

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**The headstand challenge was started by a fellow yogi friend of mine who recently travelled to Dubai, Croatia and Krakow, he performed headstands all around those countries and I opted to continue the trend to see how long we can keep this going

We toured the grounds and the church from the ground and in the air…

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We then made our way into the quaint little town for some lunch and of course some photo ops…

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It was such a lovely, fun-filled day. Lots of laughs, sights and of course delicious food.

Tuesday we decided to do a bike tour of Dabrowa Gornicza, specifically the Pogoria Lakes.  There are 4 of them, each so unique and special.  It was such a fun day and especially viewing it all on a bike!  We ended our trip by having coffee at the lovely waterfront restaurant my cousin celebrated her big 4-0 !

Later that evening we wanted to spend some time with Ania’s brother and his fiance. 16 year old “Pro gamer”, decided he’d like to join us and tag along. Guess we are all still sorta cool 🙂

We went to one castle, Zamek Siewierski, and it was breathtaking. We arrived as the sun was setting, and it was just a beautiful and peaceful time to explore the grounds. IMG_1938

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We stopped for a delicious fish dinner as well
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And finally one last stop before heading home (and heading to bed) we stopped by my cousin’s school, where our pen paling adventure all began.

Another jam-packed, adventurous day, just the way I like it.

 

Finally, Wednesday arrived and it was time to drive to the Tatra mountains to Zakopane, where I would meet up with my parents and aunt and uncle at their cabin getaway……  The drive was long and filled with traffic, but we made it and I was so thrilled to see my parents smiling faces and big, huge, hug from mom

We said our hello’s and hit the famous Krupowki street in Zakopane. It is a cobblestone street filled with wonderful shops, crafts, cheeses, restaurants. I especially loved the Empik store (similar to our Barnes and Noble) and the coffee shop, Costa Coffee (comparable to Starbucks).  The Cukiernia’s (Bakeries) were scattered throughout the street as well, always able to find a great pastry or cup of coffee there

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After dinner my cousin and her parents left Zakopane and headed back to their homes…..part 2 of my adventure was to begin (to be continued)

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Also, lunch, not pictured here , highly recommend

 

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Clarity is Cloudy

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Thinking

Annoyed. With unclarity and lack of communication. Yup, I am guilty of this too, and it is quite apparent that I am when I find myself getting irritated and annoyed with others and their lack. There is nothing more frustrating (to me) then asking something, and not getting a straight forward answer, or even worse, ignoring my question or dancing around it.  I am trying to be understanding that this may be a sense of uncertainty and unclarity on the other person’s end as well, as usual, so in my case. I find myself needing TIME to respond to things, otherwise, I jump into things that I may not really want to do/say/feel.

As Madonna would say “Express Yourself, hey , hey!”

 

Something is missing. From my life. From me. I can’t pinpoint it or figure it out. I try and try and try to put it into words, journal about it, talk about it, but I just can’t figure it out.  I go through a list:
Is it that I don’t have children?  No

Is it that I am not married? No

Is it your relationships that don’t quite feel right? Maybe

When you’re out and about in your town, does it just not feel like the right fit for you?  No

I know some things I do want:  stability, respect, communication, unconditional love.  I guess that is a start

So, I plan to take this journey in steps, here is the first one:

Getting Clear

As you’re going through your days, and even weeks, start to keep a log of what you’re feeling and when. The more details, the better.

It’s incredibly important to be able to pinpoint the moments, people and experiences that trigger these feelings. Even if your whole life feels like it’s in a funk, you have to start noticing more specific moments that cause that feeling in order to start making positive changes

 

My friend is currently overseas on his travel adventure. Croatia, Dubia, Krakow (YES!) he has decided to do a headstand in each country he visits. He is returning to the US the day I arrive in Poland. I thought it would be fun to “take over” his headstands. Let’s see how long we can keep this chain going!?

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Who will be traveling after me??  Join us!

 

Inspired

By the dedication of all the volunteers at the animal shelter, I am volunteering at. Wow. I am so inspired and GRATEFUL for kind-hearted people in this world. They walk the dogs, advocate for the animals, clean up their crates, and so much more, the best thing? They give them love xox. We all need a little love

Look at some of these guys/gals:

Thank you to ALL that have donated to my fundraiser on Facebook 🙂

Thinking of a new pet? Please consider adoption, here is a great link

 

Grateful

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That I have the opportunity to spend 12 days in Poland and Prague. I am SO excited to meet and spend time with my cousins, who have already planned all sorts of adventures for us.  I am excited to see my parents again (it has been over 2 months since I saw them last) and maybe most I am excited to NOT have to mow the lawn, and take care of the animals for a few days! haha

 

Reading

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What I did during the recent power outage we had

Miracle Creek  – I am back at it.  I am actually REALLY into it now. The first few chapters for me, were, s…..l…o….w…., but now? Now I am in!

Ask Again, Yes.  Disappointed. This had so much hype, and I was really excited to read this, but it just fell flat for me. Had difficulty connecting and empathizing with the characters.  It is amazing, how one persons “BEST READ” can be unremarkable for another

Fleishman is in Trouble  About 85% complete and it is reminding me so much of “Where’d You Go, Bernadette”

Would LOVE to check out these Literary inspired bars/restaurants!:

Writers Block Rehab

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The Library 

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Sharing

I have “heard” that Trader Joe’s has a “dupe” for the famous Anthropologie “Volcano” candle, so I tried it. Yup. It’s pretty amazing and for $3.99 a steal!  Here it is (don’t buy from Amazon, it’s $3.99 at TJ)

Sort of obsessed with this song, it just makes me…………HAPPY!

Skip to about 1:30 if you want to hear just the song 🙂

Loving my new hair cut, its the simple things, and what a difference layers do. Love my stylist 🙂 Excited to try out my new Revlon brush, let’s see if I can replicate a “Blowout”  ….who am I kidding

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Some photo’s from Poland!

From top left to bottom

  1.  Toron, Poland. Buildings dating to 1400s
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  3. Sopot, Poland
  4. Mom is in trouble
  5. Dad found some mushrooms, yes he is still alive (they ate them)
  6. Baked perogies, OH MY!

Dream Life

Pain-free. I have been struggling for years with hamstring/lower back pain. I have been to Physical therapy multiple times, and this last time has been so helpful.  I feel stronger and more stable when I am moving and using my legs, yet, sitting for me, is a real pain in the !@#$%^!  Worried about my upcoming long flight 😦  I will not take any medication for this, or have surgery, so I am determined to figure this out on my own 🙂

Healthy Lifestyle

My Life, I realize is suddenly July,

Childhood is June, and old age is August, but here it is, July, and my life, this year, is July inside of July.
— Rick Bass

 

Dream Life

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A world free from worry, hurt, pain. A sense of full body and mind freedom.   As I spent a lovely night and a remarkable day at the beach, I was watching and observing. I walked to get my early cup of coffee as the sun was rising and I noticed two children riding their bikes with their surfboards in tow. The excitement on their faces was priceless.  The only thought they had? Get me to the beach so I can have fun, soak up some pleasure and joy. Excitement. They most indeed were NOT thinking about the calories spent or burnt to ride their bikes, or if their adventure would burn off their breakfast. They were not trying to ride faster, or an extra mile in hopes of “earning” a special treat at lunch, or a second helping at dinner. They were free. Free from the worry, free from the pain, free from the thoughts that consume so many of us.

As adults (and with the help of our society) we have taken joy and pleasure away from ourselves. We grew up happy and free without a care in the world, then the pressure came. To look a certain way, to wear certain clothes, to be a certain weight, to have glowy skin, (Insert your ideas here).   How often do you do things for pure joy and pleasure? Move in a way that naturally feels good? Or is there something hidden behind your intention? No one is judging, I am not asking you to shout it out to the world, but, ask yourself the next time you are heading out to the gym, or for a run, or taking the steps instead of an elevator. WHY?

I know I want to try to live my life like those two little boys I saw this morning. Happy, carefree, and full of pleasure.

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Lately, I have been intrigued by the sky. I love the colors, the clouds, the magic.  It looks so artistic like someone just painted some strokes in the air. Beautiful and breathtaking. Dreamy.

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Thinking

  • Why would you ever choose to be with someone who is not excited to be with you? In my teens and twenties, I struggled with this. Seeking approval, trying to get others to like me. Yet, WHY? If someone does not like me for me and my quirky ways, why invest and waste your time (and theirs)  There are so many people on this planet, we connect with some, we collide with others. Spend time with those that lift you up and vice versa.  Mark Manson writes this incredibly straight forward article The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whatever capacity, they must inspire you to say “Fuck Yes” in order for you to proceed with them.  Read it here
    • This excerpt was also interesting!  The first problem is people who never feel a “Fuck Yes” for anybody they meet. If you are lukewarm on absolutely everyone you meet, then either your demographics are way off, or you suffer from a lack of vulnerability and are protecting yourself by remaining indifferent and unenthused by all of those around you. Hmmmm….
  • How to stop talking yourself out of things.  Guilty!  Yet, every time I did not think or plan something, it ended up benefiting me in so many ways.

Inspired

  • How being decisive leads to success. Oh, the struggle is real!  Do I want an omelet or oatmeal? Yoga or walk? stay in or go out? For me, this all leads back to listening to and following my gut.  Ultimately no decision is a bad decision, you will always miss out on something but the beauty is appreciating what you gain from your choice.  Excellent article and tips here
  • Date yourself, first. Image result for date yourselfI love this idea and have been practicing it a bit here and there.  So many times we crave connection and affection, and what do we do? Try to get it from others. NO!  So many people fear to be alone. Yet, this is the best way to find yourself and someone you are compatible with. What better way to discover YOU, what YOU love, what you need, what you enjoy? Without any distractions. It is intimidating, it is uncomfortable, it is scary, but it is so worth it.  I have been doing this in spurts here and there for quite some time, however, would like to set up a more consistent approach.  While at my little shore retreat, I had the BEST date with myself. I did everything and anything I wanted to do. I wore what I wanted, went where I wanted, spent what I wanted, and guess what? I had a smile on my face the entire time.  My date? It started off with my morning coffee, just the way I like it.
    • I read, journaled a bit and made my way to beach yoga. Turns out, I was the only one that showed up, so I had a private session 🙂  We flowed beautifully together, on the beach, while the sun shone down on us. Wow.  Hearing the waves and the ocean in front of me, priceless.
    • Then I walked a bit and did some internal journaling. I found some amazing creatures that I stopped to check out (Something fascinates me about slimy things).
    • I showered, put on comfy clothes and hopped on my bike (with a basket to carry my wallet ) and went off to explore. I took my time, looked at and appreciated what I wanted to.
    • When I got hungry, I stopped at the cutest cafe for lunch.  I had the most fabulous date and I am really getting to know myself and fall in love. I am kind of smitten. I am kind of awesome 🙂
  • Stuck? Sit down with your tea or coffee, and start compiling a list of things you like or LOVE. This can be your go to. It can be simple (In fact the simpler the better).  Commit to it, commit to yourself. Commit to learning about you, being free and enjoying the shit out of yourself!

Grateful

Beach days, beach yoga, sunshine

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Brigantine July 2019

Friendship bracelet dates with my nieces 🙂

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Reading

Girl in the Rearview Mirror. Suspense/Thriller. I am hooked, really enjoying the suspense so far!

The Unbreakables – Contemporary Fiction, loving so far

Are You There God, It’s Me Margaret . Classic. I loved this so much. Judy Blume is forever in my heart.  Looking for an adult summer read, check out her Summer Sisters, always a favorite!

The Mother In Law – Meh, I rated it 3/5 stars. I have read some really great thrillers this year, so this is nothing remarkable

Did you read, The Art of Racing in the Rain? My mom and I listened to this audiobook on a drive to South Carolina one time, I CRIED MY EYES out. Did you know that the movie comes out August 8?   Read it. Go see it. Be prepared to cry.

Sharing

  • Thanks to my love of yoga, my poor feet suffer. Sure pedicures help, but the dryness and cracking are inevitable. I have heard wonders about AmLactin Foot Repair, going to give it a try 🙂
  • Two friends recently mentioned and introduced me to jalapeno infused drinks! Yum!  Never would I EVER think I would enjoy them! I have NOT made this yet, but plan on it  spicy-ginger-jalapeno-kombucha-mule-cocktail
  • Finding humor in REAL family life, this is hilarious!!
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Home is where our story begins……

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My parents are re-discovering their “homes” as I am discovering my own………

Dream Life

How cool is this!

Here is the link in case you want to buy it (and invite me over!)

Thinking

Solitude silence

As I was walking the other day, there were two cars at a red light. A woman, and a guy behind her. She must have run a red light or committed some other road “crime” and the man proceeded to YELL and scream and said the WORST words to her.  I wish I would have said something, I was in a state of shock, I could not believe it. Yes, she did something “Bad” but two wrongs don’t make a right. She was scared of him. She was intimidated. I hate that. No human deserves to be treated that way for a mistake.  I am not sure it was impactful for her and will prevent her from not doing the same thing again.  I need to speak up and speak out.

Thinking about making my house my home. I want to decorate in a way that fits and suits me. I want it to be practical, convenient and welcoming. Currently searching for a dining room sideboard and some kitchen items ( a mirror and some glass pieces). I am so fortunate to have friends with an eye for these things to help me get out of my “black or white”, traditional way of thinking.

Inspired

To just be me. I am so tired of thinking I should be someone or something else. This is me, like it or not. I see so many wonderful examples all around me, and really need to let go of the fear of judgment that I may be looked at as “Selfish”.  I am making the best of my time, doing what I want, regardless if others judge me. We can’t ever control what others think, so why keep doing the same things over and over that I know will make me unhappy.  I want to :

Leave when I want to leave

Eat what I want to eat

Wake up/go to sleep when I want

Do things alone as much as I want to or need to

Change my mind, without guilt

 

Grateful

  • For my lighter summer schedule.
  • Friends decorating tips and thoughts ( I am stuck in “Traditional” mode and struggle to think outside the “box”
  • My family in Poland secretly arranged a meeting for my mom of her “class” from when she went to school and lived in Poland! I cannot believe they did this!  How incredible and amazing of an experience is that! I am so grateful for my family bringing a smile and happiness to my mom! I briefly spoke with her and she was headed out with her school friend to meet up with other school friends. I can’t wait to hear this story!

Her home village

Her old school friend whom she went to 1st & 2nd grade with

Sharing

I love the enneagram.  I find it to be the most accurate and descriptive about my personality type. Interested in finding out yours? Take the test here (I like this one because it gives you your top 3 types, because we are unique, we don’t fit perfectly into one description

Today, I feel I identify most with a type 5, The Investigator, The Observer, The Scholar 

How to get along with me…

  • Be independent, not clingy; be succinct
  • Tell me upfront exactly what I’m committing to
  • Plan an exit strategy with me for social events
  • Be straightforward, frame requests rationally
  • Ideally, I want a home base that is drama-free
  • When I open up a little, know it’s big for me
  • Don’t put me on the spot, give me warning
  • Keep clear boundaries, be aware of mine
  • Don’t intrude on the area I’ve deemed mine
  • If you want me to share, lead by example
  • I’m private, emotions are a foreign language

LOVED this description of your type explained in relationships (romantic and platonic), I find it very accurate and a great checkpoint for myself , Read more HERE

 

I purchased these shorts and this light waterproof jacket for my upcomming Poland adventure. I plan on hiking and am hoping these shorts, and this rain jacket will hold me through.

What am I going to pack, bring, wear, etc to Poland/Prague?  Exciting and stressful all at once

Love this idea. Conversation starters for your next dinner party. I also plan on using this with my students this summer

Rose: not only do I get to see my parents in a couple weeks. I get to see a lot of my family.

Bud: letting go over what others think, truly letting this go.

Thorn: the anxiety I have over starting my summer school program. The anxiety of travel plans I have (what will I wear. What will I wear. Will I be comfortable. Will I be exhausted. ). Focusing on the now. This very moment. Another thorn or fear of mine:  Disappointing others.

Reading

House Rules by Jodi Piccoult. This is such a great book. Inside look into Aspergers from all viewpoints (self, family, society, etc), interwoven with mystery and suspense

 

Up Next:

I have two books that just became available from my holds, going to try to decide which one I am in the mood for

The Unhoneymooners

The Mother In Law

Healthy Lifestyle

I am a nobody, who are you?

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Thinking

Love what you do, be proud of who you are, all of your accomplishments (and flaws) NOT just in front of your kids (or others) But in front of everyone!  Awesome article here

YES! Please stop, not only teachers but anyone that is not an introvert (or as introverted) Please stop telling others to change!  Great read

A recent re-injury has me thinking, AM I REALLY LISTENING to my body? Nope. I am not. This has been my biggest struggle. Some days I feel like a Robot. I don’t know HOW to listen to my body. Definitely a practice I will continue to work on understanding. HOW TO START LISTENING TO YOUR BODY (Link)

Tips to be a better conversationalist. Yes! I can’t stand the minute details. Like dates. Or names or things that do not matter to the conversation. Just spit it out! My patience and tolerance are low. Here are some great suggestions (link here)Image result for please just stop talking

Is a yoga mat considered carry on luggage?

Reading

Nothing better than a few great reads in a row! Hoping to keep the streak going and not end up with a book hangover!Image result for book hangover

Watching

Some amazing 8th graders graduate last night!! So beyond proud of them.  What an inspirational class that amazes me in so many ways. CONGRATS Class of 2023!

Dream Life

Love this neutral on neutral inspired Living Room SO Much!

Inspired By

The above picture, to work on my home during the summer ❤

A conversation with a friend about HUGS!  Curious, do you hug, hug and kiss, get touchy with friends?  I admit I would like to be more so, but am not really able to at the moment. I crave it, yet fear it.  Read more Image result for types of hugs

Forming HEALTHY relationships, staying away from toxic ones.  Great tips and info here if you think you may be in one

Finding your ikigai. FASCINATING!

 

Sharing

I love and always will the Trader Joes Coconut Body Butter lotion. This summer I am truly LOVING the Cucumber Avocado Body Butter, so hydrating, smells amazing and feels so cool and refreshing on!

Trader Joe’s Cucumber Avocado Body Butter Limited Edition 8 Oz W/ Shea

I am scared. So scared.  Scared to be ….me.   Lately, I have been doing things out of my comfort zone. It has been terrifying, beautifully, scary.  I love to travel. Solo. This is the first time in quite some time, I am letting go of the control of planning every last thing, finding a quiet room or Airbnb ALL myself, and instead, putting my trust into others. I am going to Poland and Prague for 12 days, yes.  I am scared and excited to see my family, some that I have never met, some that I have met years ago, some that we already have a special connection although we are far apart. Most of all, I am scared of losing myself, I am scared of hushing me inside and telling her to change, to be different, to please others. I am scared of losing that voice.  I am scared if I am me, no-one will like me or love me.  I am scared, but I am more scared of living a life that is unfulfilling to myself. I owe that to myself, we all do.  I feel different. I feel special. I feel weird. I feel loving. I feel all sorts of things as well, and I am pretty sure I am not the only one 🙂

 

Healthy Lifestyle

Love myself I do

Dream Life

Love myself I do. Not everything, but I love the good as well as the bad. I love my crazy lifestyle, and I love my hard discipline. I love my freedom of speech and the way my eyes get dark when I’m tired. I love that I have learned to trust people with my heart, even if it will get broken. I am proud of everything that I am and will become. ~Johnny Weir

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Reading

Miracle Creek 

An Anonymous Girl (I am 90% done, getting so close to figuring things out! Keeping me on my toes!)

American Spy

Watching

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The freakin’ lawn grows like a weed! I have been mowing 2-3 per week!  Each time I finish mowing, I SWEAR the grass has grown since I started.  It does not help that my obsessive-compulsive personality makes it difficult to sit back and relax while I KNOW the lawn needs another mowing.  Sheesh!

The good news? The lawn is still green (well green-ish)!

Inspired By

Since it is Fathers Day, this will be fitting. I am inspired by my father and his “Do as I want” lifestyle.  My dad is known to mysteriously disappear from dinner, a wedding, church, a party, ANYTHING, to go do what he wants. He does not even think twice about it, and most importantly he is doing what he wants without even a worry that he may be upsetting or hurting someone else.  He KNOWS this is not his intent, therefore he does not even think twice.  He does as he pleases.

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He is such a big kid at heart…..

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and “cleans up” fairly well 🙂

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JUST Don’t mess with EITHER one of us when we are hungry……..NOT GOOD

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Thank you for making me love the outdoors and nature (although I lack the green thumb)

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Thank you dad for giving me those legs and calves!  

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Always providing me and giving me whatever I needed or wanted, like the top bunk!

I want to be like my father. I want to do what I want. I want to listen to my heart, my gut, my intuition.  I want to do things without worrying that I am offending or upsetting someone else. I want to get better at being responsible for my own actions, and not feeling responsible for the way someone ELSE percieves my choices.
Thank you, dad, for teaching me SO much.

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You have given me your strength

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Your “Work hard, rest later” attitude

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Most of all your love and dedication to us…..

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I am missing our annual Fathers Day Fishing Trip today (which originated as a child when we would set off before the sun rose, grab a dozen donuts #bostonCremeForLife, and be on our merry way) Image result for boston cream donutsbut my dad is experiencing a well-deserved trip that he has put many years of labor, hard work and dedication towards. I love you, dad, I hope you are having the time of your life!  Can’t wait to join you on our next adventure! 

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Grateful For

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The rain.  It saves me about 30 minutes of watering!

Thinking

Where I’m Not Fulfilled: One of my favorite podcasters (OLD podcast) attended a show author, Chalene Johnson’s, book launch party, in which she had everyone complete a task!

On a scale of 0-10 (10 being completely satisfied and 0 being not at all, and 7 not being allowed), rate where you’re feeling for the following categories:

physical health
mental well-being
environment & surroundings
hobbies & restorative activities
romantic
friends & family
financial
significance
spirituality
personal growth

This is a great way to show which areas you may need to pay a little more attention to!

Sharing

I can’t believe it, BUT I am going to Poland and Prague for 12 days in August! I am beyond excited as I just book my flight tickets today! This will be the first time since I was a baby that my mom, dad and I will be in Poland together at the same time!! I am so much looking forward to this adventure filled with family, hiking, exploration and discovering new things!

The Tatra mountains in Poland

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Prague, Czech Republic

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Healthy Lifestyle

The Idea of You

Dreaming

Thinking

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 Why can’t I settle for something else for one night that is out of my typical “routine”. Stop me from overthinking and just enjoy!   It prevents me from wanting to do anything at all. I would rather stay in my zone, my comfort, instead of trying something new. I already set myself up for failure I tell myself I will not be happy or satisfied. But then If I don’t do it I am not happy nor satisfied either. I am ridden with guilt.

 I am TIRED of letting these feelings ruin my day. They appear first thing in the morning, or the night before and I cant LET go. I am SO great at letting go of things in other areas of my life, yet this is one thing, I still hold on to.

Image result for tooth hanging on by a thread      Like a loose tooth when I was a child. Remember it just barely hanging in there? A little string. Yet I feel overcome with fear about pulling it. What if it hurts too much? I think this is where I am at now.  What if things hurt too much. Or what if they feel TOO GOOD (gasp!!)  Then what? I am torn. I want to follow my intuition. Do what I want, but I also want to make sure I am not avoiding new opportunities out of fear. This is the constant battle in my head.   Yet I feel like when I “try” new things, I find myself being happier that I at least tried it and got it over with. Failing to enjoy or see the pleasure in it. Just another thing to check off my TODO list.  I would have RATHER done my initial, “Selfish” plan. If given a choice to go out with others, or go out by myself. I will always choose myself. This feels so wrong. This is the ugly shadow that I can’t yet accept.  

I am terrified of pain and not feeling MY BEST.  Temporary is ok. Long lasting is NOT.  Feeling sad for a few minutes, that’s ok.  Feeling pain for a few minutes, that is ok.  All day, hours? No.  In the past, I have dealt with A LOT of pain and it has been my mission to avoid that now.  I want to feel good, my best, ALL the time. This prevents me from taking risks. Some ways it is healthy. I am SCARED to drink a glass of wine, even though I may want it, for FEAR of not feeling well the next morning.  If I don’t feel well, I will NOT be able to do the things I enjoy and want and have planned for. My yoga practice will suffer. I will be groggy, tired, cranky. My head will hurt, eyes feel sensitive. Yes. I feel this way after having a half a glass of wine, at times. Then I question. Do I even really want the wine? I don’t even know.  I am fine without it. I enjoy the IDEA of it and what comes along with it. “If I have a glass of wine, I will feel relaxed, more open, calm” but why can’t I have and feel those things without it? I don’t know what the answer is. I try to listen to myself, and usually, the IDEA of having a glass of wine sounds great, but my reality is, I don’t really want it.  Sure it’s good, but I enjoy a cup of coffee (as long as it is from Wawa) just as much. In the bigger picture, when I look back at the times I chose not to have a glass of wine when the idea popped into my head. I am happy. I was able to spend the entire following day doing what I want, feeling MUCH better than I would if I had that glass of wine. I think the lesson here, for me, is to not get caught up in the “Idea” of things and really listen to myself.  

We have many “ideas” and ideals about the way things should be, should go, should ……..should ……..should. Yet this idea prevents us from living our true genuine life.  Whether it is the idea that in order to be seen, we need expensive dresses or cars. We need to wear makeup and look put together at all times. The idea that we need to be social butterflies. The ideas that we need to exercise and push ourselves daily. The idea that we need to eat certain foods. The idea that we need to be perfect instagramable parents.  Those are ideas. Not what is in our hearts. 

The next time you find yourself WANTING something, sit back a moment and think about it  Do you really want this? Or is it the IDEA you want.

Reading

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Miracle Creek – Still trekking through this one!! It IS getting better!

City of Girls – About 75% through and I am really enjoying this!! Some hilarious moments!  I don’t know how writers come up with these things!

My Oxford Year – I was pleasantly surprised by this book!! I really enjoyed it. It was beautiful!  (4/5 stars)

Looking for a good summer read?  Here are a few of my recommendations that I think are PERFECT summer reads!

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Summer Sisters by Judy Blume – This is one of my all time favorites!

Daisy Jones and the Six – Summer vibes!

Verity – you will finish this in one beach day

The Forever Summer

Still House Lake (#1) Suspenseful

Firefly Lane 

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Love to read? Hate to read? READ this, please ❤    So many benefits!

Watching

  •  I want to go to NYC just to see these punching bags and see people punching them (maybe punch them myself!? Read more HERE
  • My own accomplishment, moving, watering and keeping a lawn and flowers ALIVE!

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Grateful

  • The smiles I have seen in recent photos of my parents latest journey and adventure. Each time I speak/video chat with my mom or dad, they are radiant!
  • Being so busy that I do not even have time to miss my parents
  • I may have the opportunity to travel again this summer
  • My voice. Being able to speak up, still a challenge BUT a work in progress
  • My cousin from Poland and I are both teachers. We have been Pen Pal’ing with our students all year. It has been such an incredible experience. We have learned SO Much.  This week we received a box filled with Polish candy along with our letters!  img_0651

Sharing

  • Bucket list item right here
  • Luna oil I use this at night and love it SO MUCH. Some dislike the smell, I actually love it!
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Healthy Lifestyle

“Friends ask you questions;

enemies question you.” ~Criss Jami, Healology

Dreaming

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About going here 

Love

Lacey Dress (In “Marie”) FYI It is NOT lacey 🙂

Going to NYC soon ?? (especially solo)? Check this out

Thinking

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Sometimes I feel I don’t need or want connection but that is NOT right at all. I do crave connection. But the RIGHT connection(s). What I don’t want is all the things that go along with it that make me feel uncomfortable. What  I don’t want is others to rely on me or count on me or expect me to do and be their EVERYTHING. I don’t want people to be angry with me for turning down their offers. Yet I also don’t want them to STOP asking me because what if I do want to or feel like doing something. Selfish? Yes. Yet, I am the type of person/friend that if you need me or something or need to talk. I would/will be there. I just can’t connect physically every day. It’s too much for me. I like my routine and schedule and my freedom to float from place to place. I like to be a butterfly. Free.  I like to read and unwind and sleep early. I love to get up early and get the most important things done and out of my way.

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The deep, ugly part of myself that I truly hate. This is my biggest struggle to overcome because I still feel WRONG. Articles I read, people I speak to, think I am wrong or weird for feeling this way. I constantly question myself. It’s not that I don’t want connection. I do actually want that. I guess what I really want is comfort. Being okay telling people EXACTLY how I feel. No, I don’t want you to see me or step into my “routines”. No, I don’t want you to judge me, no I don’t want you to give up on me and walk away, I want you to accept me as I am because I am not quite there yet. I am still struggling with the belief I am wrong. Maybe once I achieve this freedom of truly not caring. I will be able to form better connections with others, knowing that if I need/want to leave, cancel, etc, that I will still be loved and not discarded.

As always, my intentions are NEVER to hurt anyone. This NEVER has to do with anyone but me. I am empathic I CAN understand why another person would choose to walk away from me. Quite honestly, I am not certain I would be able to give someone like “me” my friendship either. I get it, truly do. There are certain things I am great at. I will get things done. If you ask, I will do the best I can. Yet I can’t be the many things others want or need me to be for them.
am so fortunate for the people that accept me. I am so grateful for this!  The person I feel most comfortable is my mother. She accepts me as I am. Yes, she voices her thoughts sometimes out of frustration, but she is still there for me, not giving up. Some times I will stop by her house and stay for 5-10 min. She says “Ok love you BYE, thanks for stopping” Other times I end up staying for hours, she reacts just the same. Yes, I see the happiness in her that I was able to stay longer and be at ease. This is easy for me with her because she does not have expectations of me. This feels so good and so freeing and I want all of my connections to be this fluid.   I hate feeling that my freedom is being taken from me, it triggers many things for me.  I can’t and won’t ever feel “stuck” again.

This has probably been the most difficult post/piece I have ever written. I think I have just realized my fear. It is being left behind if I am not the way someone else wants or needs me to be. xoxo 

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There are two types of people:  1. Those that arrive at the airport super early  2. Those that are running through the airport hoping to not miss their flight.  Super Interesting! Which one are you? I’ll be at the airport 3 hrs early. Thank you very much. 🤓

Grateful

Lucy and Lily 🙂

Great tool for helping you decide if it is a NEED or a WANT (read here)

My friend in France shared this amazing video about BREATHING and SO much more!  Take a few minutes to watch it and…………breathe.

Inspired

The Perfect relationship 🙂

Loneliness, Volunteering, and connection? How do they all connect? What a wonderful read.  Yes. I think this is my “calling”. I think I am designed to volunteer and help others ]

I need to READ this daily  I think of authentic communication as sharing the unfiltered essence of ourselves with others, including our identities, feelings, needs, boundaries, and desires.

Love these 11 ways to live by

Watching

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People at the pool, without judgment 🙂

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Planet Earth, so calming 🙂

Reading

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Miracle Creek –  My husband asked me to lie. Not a big lie. He probably didn’t even consider it a lie, and neither did I, at first . . .It is getting good!

My Oxford Year – This also finally grasped me!  I did not expect a sad turn , hoping for a happier ending

Can’t Hurt Me:  Master Your Mind – INFURIATING!

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Deviled Crab Dip – You’re welcome 🙂

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My new sneaks (from Everlane) have arrived!  Last week after some research, I ordered these sneakers from Everlane for their sustainability and eco-friendliness!  My initial thoughts are mixed.  I love the quality. You can tell they are excellent quality. My first thoughts were that they would last a long time.  About the shoe? They are very hard. Not flexible at all like typical sneakers. A bit difficult to put on. I wonder if they will soften with wear (I assume yes). I ordered a FULL size up, hesitantly, but am happy I did as they fit PERFECT (Definitely size up). I ordered the Navy Blue (size 9) in hopes I could wear these outdoors for my walks and they could handle the mud and dirt.  I truly loved the light blue, “Glacier” color but opted for the Navy.  I wonder if these will actually be comfortable to walk in (once they soften a bit) They do not have much support and are so stiff. I worry my feet will hurt.  I love the way they are made and how supportive they feel, but I worry if they will be suitable for what I need. Also, the color…I don’t know, feels like it makes the shoes a bit “orthopedic” looking.  Attaching a few photos would LOVE your thoughts 🙂

Everlane Tread trainer in Navy (Size 9)